[brains] accepting/asking for help

[wispfox]

Bits of words that I thought needed a wider audience.


"It's difficult, for me at least, to consider that my perspective on things inside my head might not be accurate to reality, because then I have to face the terrifying possibility that _none_ of what's in my head might be accurate to reality. Instant recipe for insanity, that!

Accepting help implies (in my head) that what I do is not enough. And perhaps will never be enough. I hate that.

But not accepting help ever puts too much of the burden on myself. And that's bad and self-defeating."

--

I have _very_ much difficulty accepting help, and more difficulty yet asking for it. But I ask anyway. And I accept anyway. Because I am not someone who can cope with everything, all the time, on my own. Not and remain reasonably sane, happy, and stable.

Comments

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

I am someone who can cope with everything, all the time, on my own.

Really. No, really!

And my spouses want to smack me upside the head regularly for trying to be so...

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

And my spouses want to smack me upside the head regularly for trying to be so...

Heh. But your use of the word 'trying' implies that no, you're _not_ actually able to do so, and might be harming yourself by trying?

But yeah. Know the feeling...

Also. Hi! And I prefer the term 'spices'. Not that I have them, but still!

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

Oh, I regularly use "spice" as the plural. But it just confuses people in uninitiated company...

Generally my spice only smack me upside the head for things I do that harm myself. They're pretty good about that. The rest is left as an exercise for the reader, as anything else would require actually admitting things that I, of course, never actually admit. *grin*

Also. Hi!

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Yay! Spice! (not sure why I felt the need to doubly-pluralize that, the first time...)

And good people who don't let you hurt yourself. *firm nod* Yes.

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

We hates them, we do. We must be all sneaky-like these days. *grin*

Actually, I am blessed with wonderful spice and for all that it frustrates me immensely to have to face some of those things periodically, I appreciate that they're willing to put up with me^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hhelp me with such things.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

We must be all sneaky-like these days. *grin*

*laugh*

I'm amused by the fact that apparently this is 'talk to new and interesting people day' for me. ;)

for all that it frustrates me immensely to have to face some of those things periodically

Yeah. Understand that! My brain makes me do periodic checks, actually - other people rarely have to. Stupid non-setting brain!

I appreciate that they're willing to put up with me^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hhelp me with such things.

Understand completely. With both points. :)

*pleased that you use text-only strike out methods, rather than HTML strikeout methods*

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

*leans on her cane* I was on Usenet years before Eternal September! I was there for the very first spam crosspost. I remember when IRC had +channels. When I was first on the net, we only had plain text and we LIKED IT.

Damn whippersnappers.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I was not before the Eternal September, sadly - only got online in '94 (meep! 10 years?!). But it _still_ wasn't this bad then! (although alt.polyamory is still mostly spam free, although I never have time to read them anymore - not that I started reading them that long ago, but that they are the only group I ever read at _all_ anymore)

*amused*

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

I first got onto IRC and into MU*ing in 1989-1990. I first got onto Usenet in 1987. Was active on several BBSes for years before that.

I feel old.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I feel old.

Neh. Just more geeky than I am. ;)

Me, I just feel too damn young (physical-age-wise), constantly.

Something about mostly hanging around with people older than I, I think.

[dda.livejournal.com]

That's not old. Old is playing ZORK on the original MIT ITS machines over 300 baud modem. Old is teletypes with real working paper tape punches, on which you saved your programs. Old is USENET before the alt.* tree.

Old is walking to school barefoot in the snow. Uphill. both ways! ;-)

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

You're old. ;) *points at birthdate*

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

On a slightly more serious note, "Yay! I'm interesting people!"

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Yes! You are. :)

And not apparently one who posts too often for me to add you! (there are others who I'd _like_ to add, but just... can't)

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

I have my days where I actually post several times a day, but they're pretty few and far between.

I tend to comment a lot, though. I gotcher Peanut Gallery right here.

I also seriously think about which usericon to use before every single post/comment. I am a sick, sick puppy. I regularly think, "Damn, I need a usericon for X."

Oh, and now that you're friended, you can go look at Pictures (and other less exciting stuff) if you like. Check the six-month-titled post in my memories under "pictures". But don't do it at work. *grin*

My "smut" memories may entertain you as well, depending on your tastes.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

they're pretty few and far between.

Which works well for my already overloaded reading list. ;)

I tend to comment a lot, though. I gotcher Peanut Gallery right here

*amused* That works. I don't normally manage to reply _quite_ this quickly or often, because I tend to take a few days->a month to reply (after that point, most comments are no longer worth replying to).

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Oops. Wasn't done replying. Stupid fingers!

I also seriously think about which usericon to use before every single post/comment.

I sometimes do, sometimes don't. I _do_ need a thinky icon. And a bratty icon (my tongue-sticking out works, but not quite well enough). And a predatory one. (what? I like my icons!)

But don't do it at work.

Noted. Now I'm all curious!

My "smut" memories may entertain you as well, depending on your tastes.

Probably. :)

You want to go look at my... third post on my journal page, because there's two filters you might want to be in.

Did someone say "Spice?"

[greendalek.livejournal.com]

Allow me to butt in with a 'toon recommendation:

http://spice.keenspace.com/

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

*adds to regular reading list*

Re: Did someone say "Spice?"

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

Been there, seen that. *grin*

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

Oh, I regularly use "spice" as the plural. But it just confuses people in uninitiated company...
*nods* It would have certainly confused me, as "spice" or "spices" tangents me to cooking. (Must've been some really strong spices... and smart too to be able to distinguish things)

*adds to vocabulary*

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

Also. I noticed that you friended me, not sure whether you just did that today. But I saw it and peeked at your main journal and friended you back.

So there. *nyah*

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I did that today, yes. :)

And... oh, _no_, I've been friended back! The horrors! *hand-staple-forehead*

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

You know, *hand-staple-forehead* makes me laugh a lot more than it probably should.

Ow.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

*laughs* Dunno - did you attempt to picture it?

I don't frequently _use_ that gesture, but it seemed appropriate. ;)