[brains] accepting/asking for help

[wispfox]

Bits of words that I thought needed a wider audience.


"It's difficult, for me at least, to consider that my perspective on things inside my head might not be accurate to reality, because then I have to face the terrifying possibility that _none_ of what's in my head might be accurate to reality. Instant recipe for insanity, that!

Accepting help implies (in my head) that what I do is not enough. And perhaps will never be enough. I hate that.

But not accepting help ever puts too much of the burden on myself. And that's bad and self-defeating."

--

I have _very_ much difficulty accepting help, and more difficulty yet asking for it. But I ask anyway. And I accept anyway. Because I am not someone who can cope with everything, all the time, on my own. Not and remain reasonably sane, happy, and stable.

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[ysabel.livejournal.com]

*leans on her cane* I was on Usenet years before Eternal September! I was there for the very first spam crosspost. I remember when IRC had +channels. When I was first on the net, we only had plain text and we LIKED IT.

Damn whippersnappers.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I was not before the Eternal September, sadly - only got online in '94 (meep! 10 years?!). But it _still_ wasn't this bad then! (although alt.polyamory is still mostly spam free, although I never have time to read them anymore - not that I started reading them that long ago, but that they are the only group I ever read at _all_ anymore)

*amused*

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

I first got onto IRC and into MU*ing in 1989-1990. I first got onto Usenet in 1987. Was active on several BBSes for years before that.

I feel old.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I feel old.

Neh. Just more geeky than I am. ;)

Me, I just feel too damn young (physical-age-wise), constantly.

Something about mostly hanging around with people older than I, I think.

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

I'm turning 34 next week.

Officially older than a third of a century.

It could be worse.

(Both of my spice are in their late twenties, so I'm the old fart.)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I'm turning 34 next week.

I know - I looked at your birthday on your info page when you commented on feeling old.

You are _not_ old, BTW. Not, not, not! (I'm just too damn young. ;)

(Both of my spice are in their late twenties, so I'm the old fart.)

Heh. Because, of course, mid-thirties makes one an old fart. ;)

[dda.livejournal.com]

That's not old. Old is playing ZORK on the original MIT ITS machines over 300 baud modem. Old is teletypes with real working paper tape punches, on which you saved your programs. Old is USENET before the alt.* tree.

Old is walking to school barefoot in the snow. Uphill. both ways! ;-)

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

You're old. ;) *points at birthdate*