[brains] accepting/asking for help
Jul. 9th, 2004 11:54 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxBits of words that I thought needed a wider audience.
"It's difficult, for me at least, to consider that my perspective on things inside my head might not be accurate to reality, because then I have to face the terrifying possibility that _none_ of what's in my head might be accurate to reality. Instant recipe for insanity, that!
Accepting help implies (in my head) that what I do is not enough. And perhaps will never be enough. I hate that.
But not accepting help ever puts too much of the burden on myself. And that's bad and self-defeating."
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I have _very_ much difficulty accepting help, and more difficulty yet asking for it. But I ask anyway. And I accept anyway. Because I am not someone who can cope with everything, all the time, on my own. Not and remain reasonably sane, happy, and stable.
"It's difficult, for me at least, to consider that my perspective on things inside my head might not be accurate to reality, because then I have to face the terrifying possibility that _none_ of what's in my head might be accurate to reality. Instant recipe for insanity, that!
Accepting help implies (in my head) that what I do is not enough. And perhaps will never be enough. I hate that.
But not accepting help ever puts too much of the burden on myself. And that's bad and self-defeating."
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I have _very_ much difficulty accepting help, and more difficulty yet asking for it. But I ask anyway. And I accept anyway. Because I am not someone who can cope with everything, all the time, on my own. Not and remain reasonably sane, happy, and stable.
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Date: 2004-07-09 08:38 pm (UTC)Actually, I am blessed with wonderful spice and for all that it frustrates me immensely to have to face some of those things periodically, I appreciate that they're willing to put up with me^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hhelp me with such things.
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Date: 2004-07-09 08:42 pm (UTC)*laugh*
I'm amused by the fact that apparently this is 'talk to new and interesting people day' for me. ;)
for all that it frustrates me immensely to have to face some of those things periodically
Yeah. Understand that! My brain makes me do periodic checks, actually - other people rarely have to. Stupid non-setting brain!
I appreciate that they're willing to put up with me^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^H^Hhelp me with such things.
Understand completely. With both points. :)
*pleased that you use text-only strike out methods, rather than HTML strikeout methods*
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Date: 2004-07-09 08:47 pm (UTC)Damn whippersnappers.
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Date: 2004-07-09 08:53 pm (UTC)*amused*
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:00 pm (UTC)I feel old.
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:03 pm (UTC)Neh. Just more geeky than I am. ;)
Me, I just feel too damn young (physical-age-wise), constantly.
Something about mostly hanging around with people older than I, I think.
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:04 pm (UTC)Officially older than a third of a century.
It could be worse.
(Both of my spice are in their late twenties, so I'm the old fart.)
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:07 pm (UTC)I know - I looked at your birthday on your info page when you commented on feeling old.
You are _not_ old, BTW. Not, not, not! (I'm just too damn young. ;)
(Both of my spice are in their late twenties, so I'm the old fart.)
Heh. Because, of course, mid-thirties makes one an old fart. ;)
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Date: 2004-07-09 11:46 pm (UTC)Old is walking to school barefoot in the snow. Uphill. both ways! ;-)
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Date: 2004-07-10 05:28 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-07-09 08:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-07-09 08:54 pm (UTC)And not apparently one who posts too often for me to add you! (there are others who I'd _like_ to add, but just... can't)
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Date: 2004-07-09 08:57 pm (UTC)I tend to comment a lot, though. I gotcher Peanut Gallery right here.
I also seriously think about which usericon to use before every single post/comment. I am a sick, sick puppy. I regularly think, "Damn, I need a usericon for X."
Oh, and now that you're friended, you can go look at Pictures (and other less exciting stuff) if you like. Check the six-month-titled post in my memories under "pictures". But don't do it at work. *grin*
My "smut" memories may entertain you as well, depending on your tastes.
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:04 pm (UTC)Which works well for my already overloaded reading list. ;)
I tend to comment a lot, though. I gotcher Peanut Gallery right here
*amused* That works. I don't normally manage to reply _quite_ this quickly or often, because I tend to take a few days->a month to reply (after that point, most comments are no longer worth replying to).
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:28 pm (UTC)Conveniently, I now have a solution to said stuck problem. So thanks!
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Date: 2004-07-12 07:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-07-09 09:06 pm (UTC)I also seriously think about which usericon to use before every single post/comment.
I sometimes do, sometimes don't. I _do_ need a thinky icon. And a bratty icon (my tongue-sticking out works, but not quite well enough). And a predatory one. (what? I like my icons!)
But don't do it at work.
Noted. Now I'm all curious!
My "smut" memories may entertain you as well, depending on your tastes.
Probably. :)
You want to go look at my... third post on my journal page, because there's two filters you might want to be in.
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Date: 2004-07-09 09:27 pm (UTC)Which is to say, I answered it before I even mentioned that I'd friended you back.
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Date: 2004-07-09 10:28 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-07-09 10:44 pm (UTC)Haven't looked at pictures yet and haven't replied to your fairy posts yet. :)