Psinging, energy work, courting

( bits, pieces )

Psinging, energy work, courting

( bits, pieces )

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There were a couple things that popped into my head while preparing for sleep, and they told me to post them.

I do not like discussions where effectively what is being said is 'you should think this because' or 'you think this and'. I much prefer 'I think this, and this is why".

Possibly related, I don't like discussions in which one person has to be right. It's why I avoid political, religious, and similar types of discussions. They do _not_ make me happy, because in my mind there _is_ no 'right'.

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There were a couple things that popped into my head while preparing for sleep, and they told me to post them.

I do not like discussions where effectively what is being said is 'you should think this because' or 'you think this and'. I much prefer 'I think this, and this is why".

Possibly related, I don't like discussions in which one person has to be right. It's why I avoid political, religious, and similar types of discussions. They do _not_ make me happy, because in my mind there _is_ no 'right'.

Privacy thoughts

This was something that I was putting on my user info page, but thought I also ought to post it. I shall link to it from there, I think.

Privacy thoughts. I'm mostly a very open person. I'm also someone who needs to talk to those I'm close to about stuff. To this end, if you tell me stuff and _don't_ tell me it's not to be shared with those I tend to go to for needed conversation, it's not safe to assume that I won't. I might not; there are things which ping my 'not to be talked about' filters even without it being specifically stated, but I also might. Currently, the "people I regularly talk to about stuff" category includes australian_joe, because, well, partner! I believe it also includes aelisdeliria because she's a good friend and she's my roommate, so she gets to hear my babbles.

There are certainly others that I talk to about stuff, but it's less regular, and therefore much less likely to be hit by the other-people's-privacy-concerns filter.

Anyway, this is not to say that I don't keep secrets, because I do and can - I'm just not the best as being able to tell what people might think should be secret. As well, if you tell me/I experience something which directly affects me, I cannot promise to not talk to australian_joe and/or aelisdeliria about it, because things that affect me need to be talked about. I cannot, and should not for my own sanity, make that promise.

Interestingly, I think I treat aelisdeliria like a local partner, at least as far as what I talk to her about. This is probably because I desperately need that 'who can I talk to _right now_' outlet, and she seems fine with being that for me. I shall go state this to her, now that I've realized it, because it probably needs to be stated and confirmed.

Privacy thoughts

This was something that I was putting on my user info page, but thought I also ought to post it. I shall link to it from there, I think.

Privacy thoughts. I'm mostly a very open person. I'm also someone who needs to talk to those I'm close to about stuff. To this end, if you tell me stuff and _don't_ tell me it's not to be shared with those I tend to go to for needed conversation, it's not safe to assume that I won't. I might not; there are things which ping my 'not to be talked about' filters even without it being specifically stated, but I also might. Currently, the "people I regularly talk to about stuff" category includes australian_joe, because, well, partner! I believe it also includes aelisdeliria because she's a good friend and she's my roommate, so she gets to hear my babbles.

There are certainly others that I talk to about stuff, but it's less regular, and therefore much less likely to be hit by the other-people's-privacy-concerns filter.

Anyway, this is not to say that I don't keep secrets, because I do and can - I'm just not the best as being able to tell what people might think should be secret. As well, if you tell me/I experience something which directly affects me, I cannot promise to not talk to australian_joe and/or aelisdeliria about it, because things that affect me need to be talked about. I cannot, and should not for my own sanity, make that promise.

Interestingly, I think I treat aelisdeliria like a local partner, at least as far as what I talk to her about. This is probably because I desperately need that 'who can I talk to _right now_' outlet, and she seems fine with being that for me. I shall go state this to her, now that I've realized it, because it probably needs to be stated and confirmed.