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wispfoxSometimes laughter is from amusement, often from startled, silly, or both.
Sometimes it's either that or crying.
Sometimes it's that _and_ crying.
Sometimes it's to stave off hysteria, and those laughs sound very brittle to my own ears.
Sometimes, though, laughter is an extension of a smile, because the smile just cannot hold enough joy without exploding into laughter. This is usually what is happening if I am unable to explain why I am laughing.
I now know that I handle completely unfamiliar situations much better than I used to. But they still are no fun. But, sometimes, especially difficult situations allow one to work through things that one did not know how to address, and come out the other side with a better understanding of one's self and one's relationships.
My predictive abilities for my emotional state are much better for positive situations than negative ones. I suspect strongly that I tend toward being overly negative about negative ones, because it's safer. It's much easier to start from the point of not being able to handle something, and perhaps later relax that as appropriate, than to expect too much of myself and make things bad all around for no helpful reason. On the other hand, I'm really accurate about whether or not something likely to be good for me is likely.
Sometimes it's either that or crying.
Sometimes it's that _and_ crying.
Sometimes it's to stave off hysteria, and those laughs sound very brittle to my own ears.
Sometimes, though, laughter is an extension of a smile, because the smile just cannot hold enough joy without exploding into laughter. This is usually what is happening if I am unable to explain why I am laughing.
I now know that I handle completely unfamiliar situations much better than I used to. But they still are no fun. But, sometimes, especially difficult situations allow one to work through things that one did not know how to address, and come out the other side with a better understanding of one's self and one's relationships.
My predictive abilities for my emotional state are much better for positive situations than negative ones. I suspect strongly that I tend toward being overly negative about negative ones, because it's safer. It's much easier to start from the point of not being able to handle something, and perhaps later relax that as appropriate, than to expect too much of myself and make things bad all around for no helpful reason. On the other hand, I'm really accurate about whether or not something likely to be good for me is likely.
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Date: 2007-07-30 02:44 pm (UTC)I do this. Frequently. It's a wonderful feeling when the joy just bubbles out of you.
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Date: 2007-07-30 03:15 pm (UTC)I sort of feel like there is a distinction between laughing with the sides of the mouth (as when a smile erupts into laughter) vs. a belly laugh (mouth wide open) vs. a strained or restricting laugh as when not-crying (where the lips are tighter). I dunno if that follows for other people, though.
How much impact do you think you have on whether or not a situation is positive and negative? Sometimes you can carve a positive out of a larger negative situation by simplifying/segmenting/changing the setting/etc. -- of course it takes some energy. But if you're doing that it might explain why some things you predict will be bad turn out to be okay or good: you are sometimes modifying them to be more positive. (Just a theory.)
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Date: 2007-07-30 07:10 pm (UTC)SMILE
Date: 2007-07-30 03:54 pm (UTC)C
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Date: 2007-08-02 02:25 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2007-08-02 02:47 pm (UTC)And you aren't even the one who posted it!