[poll] faces, finding people in a crowd

[wispfox]

Wanted to do a poll about visualizing people's faces, as well as relating to the fact that I have a hell of a time finding people in a crowd. Exhausted, but wanted to do this before I forgot. :)

[Poll #341839]

Comments

Re: recognition

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

So, do you know more and more of their core self as you get to know them better or do you get the whole thing all at once. I'd figure the first but that's just speculation.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

It's gradual, definitely. But... only sorta.

In many cases (australian_joe being the most recent example), I develop a basic sense of a person quickly upon meeting them, and later interactions with them will help confirm (and rarely, modify - very rarely. It's a lot disconcerting to have this happen, because it means my basic sense wasn't right so I was attaching memories and information to an inaccurate memory placement. Tends to be fairly damaging if it's a major difference between my sense of a person and their actual selves) it.

The confirmation pieces are neccessary, however, for someone to stick in my head for a long period of time even without interaction. Just the sense is not enough.

In the case of someone I meet online, I can develop a sense of a person, but I don't get the basic framework on which I usually attach the confirmations of that sense. So I can only get a sense up to a certain (insufficient and not cohesive) point, and rarely will think of someone I only know online when not interacting with them.

Like, I won't notice, much as I like you both, if you or bridgetester were to vanish for a week or two, unless someone were to point it out. After a week or two, I might notice. Maybe. And you two are, by far, the people I have the best sense of, in terms of people I've not yet met.