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Jul. 12th, 2004 01:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxOh, good _gods_, I suddenly want touch.
And not just any touch. Touch where I'm not trying to heal someone or be healed. Touch where I don't have to think about whether or not they'll want the touch and/or have to ask for it, or whether or not there are areas I have to be careful about touching (ticklishness can be problematic). Comfy, non-thinking-required...
Gah.
[edit: it's actually fairly difficult for me to be comfortable enough to not think at all when cuddling with someone, and pretty much requires that they are both ridiculously comfy for me to be around _and_ are naturally very cuddly]
[another edit: non-thinking-required != not thinking. By that, I _really_ meant that I don't have to think about the cuddling itself in terms of being highly aware of where to not touch (for tickling reasons, mostly), whether or not the person really _wants_ to be touching for so long, etc...]
[yet another edit: cuddling, for me, implies that physical contact is being initiated by _both_ people, not only one. I need to feel like the other person is actively interested/involved in it, or it's not cuddling.]
And not just any touch. Touch where I'm not trying to heal someone or be healed. Touch where I don't have to think about whether or not they'll want the touch and/or have to ask for it, or whether or not there are areas I have to be careful about touching (ticklishness can be problematic). Comfy, non-thinking-required...
Gah.
[edit: it's actually fairly difficult for me to be comfortable enough to not think at all when cuddling with someone, and pretty much requires that they are both ridiculously comfy for me to be around _and_ are naturally very cuddly]
[another edit: non-thinking-required != not thinking. By that, I _really_ meant that I don't have to think about the cuddling itself in terms of being highly aware of where to not touch (for tickling reasons, mostly), whether or not the person really _wants_ to be touching for so long, etc...]
[yet another edit: cuddling, for me, implies that physical contact is being initiated by _both_ people, not only one. I need to feel like the other person is actively interested/involved in it, or it's not cuddling.]
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Re: touch
Date: 2004-07-12 05:49 pm (UTC)Not being ticklish is very much an advantage in my head - I learned how to turn it off at a _very_ young age. And most people I know who are ticklish don't like to be tickled. (most. Not all)
frequently desirous of more touch than I get
So am I. But for a while there I _was_ getting about my level of want and of the non-effortful varieety, which makes this more... noticable. I guess.
Re: touch
Date: 2004-07-12 06:00 pm (UTC)I should probably mention that in terms of getting the amount of touch that I want, yesterday was good. :) I just want more today...
As for the thinking part, I was somewhat ignoring that since I'm quite good at keeping my thoughts to myself. (Yes, I put myself in the postion of supplying such even though I'm a bit distant. I don't know how else to give my reactions. I don't know if that's a usual behaviour for most people or not.)
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Date: 2004-07-12 06:01 pm (UTC)By that, I _really_ meant that I don't have to think about the cuddling itself in terms of being highly aware of where to not touch (for tickling reasons, mostly), whether or not the person really _wants_ to be touching for so long, etc...
Re: thinking / wants / touching
Date: 2004-07-12 06:08 pm (UTC)Thanks for clarifying the not-thinking part. It makes much more sense now.
One of the reasons that I identify with ferrets is the amount that they play/lay/sleep together.
Re: thinking / wants / touching
Date: 2004-07-12 06:44 pm (UTC)I mostly can't, although I _can_ go unable to speak and unable to word things.
It makes much more sense now.
Yeah. I should go clarify in the post itself. :)
Re: thinking / wants / touching
Date: 2004-07-13 05:41 pm (UTC)Cuddlepile! *beams*
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Date: 2004-07-12 06:02 pm (UTC)(Yes, I put myself in the postion of supplying such even though I'm a bit distant. I don't know how else to give my reactions. I don't know if that's a usual behaviour for most people or not.)
What?
Re: what?
Date: 2004-07-12 06:14 pm (UTC)As an aside, the way that I was able to figure out how to respond to your comments was by putting myself in the role of supplying the touch that you are seeking. I did with no expectations of fulfilling such in the near future due to you being a continent away.
Figuring out my reactions in this manner is something that I do regularly but I have no idea how common the behaviour is.
It was really a throwaway comment that is imminently ignorable.
Re: what?
Date: 2004-07-12 06:46 pm (UTC)I do this. I think of things in terms of what if they happen regardless of if they actually are likely to happen soon or at all. So no worries.