complaint-free?

[wispfox]

Via starandrea, A Complaint-Free World.

I don't actually have any idea how often I complain, nor where the line is between saying things because they are true but possibly so often it's a complaint (even if it's because I'm failing to consciously notice that there is something bothering me, and that's why I keep saying it). So this could be interesting. (so could wearing it when driving or on the computer, what with my wrist things getting in the way)

I'm getting 5, so I can give one to some local people, if wanted.

Comments

[jasra]

That's interesting.

Also, your 2nd to last sentence doesn't parse.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

parsing: Better?

[jasra]

Yup. I suspect it would fit over the braces. I think I have one of those pink ones in my room - on the left speaker (or maybe in the 6A martini glass) if you want to experiment.

[metahacker.livejournal.com]

Something about this irks me. Can't put my finger on it yet.

[brynndragon.livejournal.com]

Did you have any problems with The Secret (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Secret_(2006_film))? This sounds like a new variant on the "law of attraction" theme.

[metahacker.livejournal.com]

I see huge differences between them. This is about changing your mental interpretation of the world, and learning a new habit (or unlearning an old one). The Secret was *also* about that...sorted...but purported to be (and was hyped into) "think good thoughts/pray, and the world will bend itself to your desire without further input from you".

I'm a believer in making your own luck. I just have trouble with this sort of memento. Maybe that's the problem. It's a kind of tacky-looking bracelet.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Eh, I care less about 'pretty' and more about 'reminder' in this case. *shrug*

[devoken.livejournal.com]

This bothers me for the some of the same reasons having my calendar public bothers me. It's *my* calendar, *my* time, and in this case, *my* action and *my* feelings. Wearing this bracelet supposedly gives anyone who is also wearing a bracelet of that type permission to come up to you and tell you to put up and shut up.

I'm private about my bad feelings. I don't share them with just anyone. The idea the wearing this would entitle someone else to comment on my decision to vent, whether it's healthy for me or not, is abhorrent.

Also, I'm way overreacting and have issues about anything that resembles other people controlling me. :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I'm utterly willing to _completely ignore_ anyone else trying to tell me I'm complaining, if I disagree. This is by far not a case of anyone else can tell me what to do. I'm enough prone to thinking other people are experts in anything they sound confident in at it is! Better than I was, though; I don't automatically assume that confidence equals accuracy, and indeed am really annoyed by people who confidently assert inaccurate thing, _especially_ if it's something I do know about.

[leiacat.livejournal.com]

Gah. If only these bracelets didn't totally slaughter my wrists, I'd design one that says "Complaints allowed, sympathy offered". The way I see it, complaints allow the opportunity for internal brain-crud to externalize, can drastically reduce bad self-reinforcing mental loops, and discharge frustration. If I complain, I said it and it's allowed to leave, if I hold it in, it _stays_ in, and I can think of few things I can do to myself more harmful than that. If my friends complain, they can get sympathy or advice (as they wish), hugs, encouragement, or even possibly a reduction of complained-about thing.

Not complaining is not empowering or positive. If you want to get in the habit of feeling good, instead of supressing the bad, talk about the good, dammit! I'll welcome a complaint-free world the moment it runs out of things to complain about, and not a moment sooner.

Um.. .sorry I sploded all over your LJ here. I guess it pushed a button. Nothing personal, obviously.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

No worries, re 'splody. :)

I do see what you're saying; largely, I hope this to help me just be aware of I'm complaining a lot.

And, for me, it's largely 'am I complaining and not doing anything about it if I can, or am I complaining to let off steam _and_ doing what I can about it'. I have no sense at all of how much, when, or why I complain. So, I'm hoping this to help my attention to figure that out.

(I do see 'talking things out' & 'letting off steam' as different from 'complaining'. Complaining feels like... low level background noise, distracting, and not useful, in my head. *shrug* As always, you milage may of course vary!)