Informing people of interest? Initiating action based on said interest? Determining mutual interest?
I'm actually pretty good with informing people of interest, simply because it's actually fairly rare for my interest to remain past the initial meeting of people, so it seems... polite to let people know of such so that they don't get confusing signals from me based on said interest. I tend to wait to make sure the interest is one that lasts long enough to matter, though.
And expressing said interest is _MUCH_ easier in email than in person. I am... not terribly coherent in indicating interset in person.
And, expressing interest when there is hope/expectation/worry that things will change because of it is _much_ harder than when it really is just about sharing information.
Dunno. I've tended to be the one asking people out most of my life, so it's kinda a neat change that it's not always the case. :)
But you do it. I fuss about it, I hope they notice that I'm interested, I flirt in hopes that I can figure out whether I'm really interested and it might last, or will wear off fast.
Back when I was dating more actively, I'd often think someone was a very good match for me and find out after a few months and some drama that the match was actually pretty bad, so now I have this tendency to sort of dance around someone I'm interested in, without saying anything, for a long time, hoping to figure out without words whether s/he's more deeply interested in me, or whether I'm actually and truly really interested or have a crush that's not maintainable. Sometimes it takes knowing someone for awhile to find that out. Then, after much dancing, it becomes moot, or too late.
Sometimes I wish I were more bold about it, but sometimes I think that will just screw things up.
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Date: 2007-02-22 05:42 pm (UTC)Huh. I'm not sure if to parse this, really.
Informing people of interest? Initiating action based on said interest? Determining mutual interest?
I'm actually pretty good with informing people of interest, simply because it's actually fairly rare for my interest to remain past the initial meeting of people, so it seems... polite to let people know of such so that they don't get confusing signals from me based on said interest. I tend to wait to make sure the interest is one that lasts long enough to matter, though.
And expressing said interest is _MUCH_ easier in email than in person. I am... not terribly coherent in indicating interset in person.
And, expressing interest when there is hope/expectation/worry that things will change because of it is _much_ harder than when it really is just about sharing information.
Dunno. I've tended to be the one asking people out most of my life, so it's kinda a neat change that it's not always the case. :)
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Date: 2007-02-22 05:52 pm (UTC)Back when I was dating more actively, I'd often think someone was a very good match for me and find out after a few months and some drama that the match was actually pretty bad, so now I have this tendency to sort of dance around someone I'm interested in, without saying anything, for a long time, hoping to figure out without words whether s/he's more deeply interested in me, or whether I'm actually and truly really interested or have a crush that's not maintainable. Sometimes it takes knowing someone for awhile to find that out. Then, after much dancing, it becomes moot, or too late.
Sometimes I wish I were more bold about it, but sometimes I think that will just screw things up.