[brains] Shyness in other people

[wispfox]

So, I have a really difficult time remembering that most (all?) the people I have been or am close to think of themselves as shy, because they either have never been shy at me (that I could pick up on) or were shy around me in a situation that I can't imagine anyone ever _not_ being shy in.

I have frequently been informed that I make it easy to not be shy around me (or perhaps at me). I don't really understand this, though.

I mean, yeah - I probably would not notice anyone (to a degree where I remember them later, at least) who was being highly shy at me, so that'll automatically select out such people. But... there are some people who tell me they are shy who, when I first met them, were being _anything_ but shy. (my roommate is one such example)

I do wonder if it relates to the fact that I may not behave appropriately around people who are being shy, if I have sufficient social energy that I am not myself being shy - perhaps because I may not pick up on it? And, well, I'm sufficiently random that I will share interestings observations with anyone who happens to be nearby... which might give shy people an opening with which to interact with me? And, well, people doing sufficiently interesting things is likely to cause me to just start talking to them about it.

I don't know. I don't get it! Yet another thing I should figure out how to bottle up and sell - the defusing of shyness that I apparently exude.

Anyone happen to be able to explain this to me?

Comments

[ratatosk.livejournal.com]

How, then, do you deal with people with little or strange body language? I'm fairly sure that you're living with someone for whom that applies, so I'm really fascinated by this. :)

And now I'm wondering if you've ever interacted with me when I was really tired, because apparently my body language mostly (entirely?) goes away, as well as my ability to read other people's. Hmm...

I deal with it very poorly! It's a huge problem. _No_ body language in particular is different, and in that case I just pay attention to speech the same way you do.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

_No_ body language in particular is different, and in that case I just pay attention to speech the same way you do.

Oh, I see. I wonder if you have the same confusion problems with my body language that others have commented on, where the overt and sightly exhaggerated stuff conflicts with the (usually unrelated) more subtle stuff I am not aware of... Hmm...