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[wispfox]

Excellent evening last night, including lots of cuddling which I apparently desperately needed, based both on my mood improvement and a significant reduction of exhaustion last night.

Visited family today; still bemused by the degree to which this specific niece adores me. She has since she was _really_ small (6 months old?), which most children Just Don't Do. And it's not like I see her all that often. She's also one of the few children I know who don't drain me ridiculously after spending 5 hours around her, even considering she refused to nap because there were visiting people.

Nutty.


And, some linkage:

A born-again christian republican who voted for Kerry explains why. I think tafkar linked to this. And to the following:

Explaining why Gays and Lesbians need to get Black.

Fascinatingly, I think I'd not blink an eye at wearing a pin proclaiming that I am bi (but, keep in mind that I'm not in an area of the US that is known for being especially hateful about such things. And I'm female, which helps).

But... I think I _would_ be a little nervous (but likely would still do so) wearing a pin proclaiming that I'm poly. And I'm not sure _why_ I'd be nervous! Perhaps because I feel like I'd constantly have to be explaining it, and I just don't tend to have that kind of social energy...

Comments

[regyt.livejournal.com]

Lack of social energy is a wonderful way to partially explain why I don't bother tell most people about such things. It's that plus a sense of, why bring it up if it's not appropriate to the conversation? It feels out of place and unecessary. I don't tell them what I've done with monogamous boyfriends, either.

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

There are things that people don't need to know, and many of them don't want to know either. :)

As much as I like to promote knowledge, some people I'd rather keep ignorant.

[nex0s.livejournal.com]

aaaaand this is what the author is talking about.

see, i'm interracial, i'm bi, i'm poly.

i can keep quiet about being bi and poly but everyone will always know and see that i am black. i will NEVER be under the radar about it because it's my skin, my hair, my lips, my eyes. everything you see when you see me, whether you know me or not, is right there in your face black. so, whether or not i want to, i HAVE to deal with rascism both subtle and up front.

maybe that's what makes it easier for me to be out as bi and out as poly. i already don't have a choice in such a large part of my life, that just going those few steps further doesn't really bother me -- i've already not been promoted, been the first one let off, passed over for a job, and physically attacked, and called names. what can they do to me that hasn't been done already?

THAT's the point of the article.

she's saying that you CAN hide. but you are NEVER going to get what you want if you do.

n.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

And, in a vaugely related but more demonstrating how oblivious I can be kind of way...

I didn't notice/realize/insert some other word here that you were black until someone mentioned it. I then could see it, certainly, but apparently my ability to notice such things is somewhat less... useful than most.

This may be because I tend toward not noticing people's visual appearance, I don't know. It has tended to result in me accidentally offending people, since apparently some people think it's offensive to _not_ notice what color their skin is (or is not).

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

...

See, I think that being visibly [something] is different than telling people explicit details about what you do in your bedroom. (Or someone else's bedroom, for that matter. Or the kitchen, or...

*distracts self*)

I certainly don't bring up anything relating to my social life in out-of-context situations. But at the same time, I can certainly see the value of being openly 'one of those people' even if you don't give everyone and his brother intimate details about what that means. I mean, honestly, even if I were to be wearing such a labeling device, and someone asked, they'd only get a description of what it _means_, and not what I _do_. If the difference here is apparent? I hope I'm making sense...