[sad, rant]

[wispfox]

Why must I lose friendships for things that did not happen? And, because of who I am and how I am, _would_ not happen, even should the friend in question not have been similarly trustworthy? I miss the friendship. I would have been perfectly _happy_ had it continued as the friendship that it was. I had not seriously considered any other possibilities due to lack of availability, regardless of the fears/expectations of said friend's significant other. But apparently having a close friendship with me is threatening for my friends' significant others, sometimes. At least that's not always true, I guess...

Why is it that being who I am seems to be so damn good at magnifying problems in the relationships of those with whom I spend a sufficient amount of time, all too frequently resulting in jealousy and/or the loss of said friendships? Sometimes I hate being a catalyst.

I don't like losing friendships. I never have. I like it even less when the reason is not within the friendship itself. The dislike increases yet more when I run into former friends with relative frequency, due to mutual social activities that I refuse to stop attending. Worse yet when I had a sufficiently strong bond with the former friend that I felt a need to remove the bond.

*sigh* I wish I coped _faster_, dammit!

[edit: tried to make things a little more clear]

Comments

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

'My danger sense is tingling!'

Yes. Still.

Why be together if there is no trust?

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

Why be together if there is no trust?

I agree wholeheartedly.

One potential explanation is that there was trust in the past and that they are still relying on the past.

Another potential explanation is that people have scary friends. (Note: am not attributing to you, just a muse about people) There are some second link people that I am not comfortable being around, friends of friends, etc; but I would not tell/imply said that my friends should break their second link friendships. I would explain my reasons for discomfort though and expect my friend to think about said reasons.