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[wispfox]

Huh.

Ok, I think that, in addition to wanting touch of a kind that is specific and fairly difficult for me to find, I'm also irritable with the sheer amount of effort involved in _finding_ the kinds of people who are as right for me as I am now convinced is possible. (I was already mostly sure, but now I have _proof_!) (Heh - I used to not think people who would understand me even existed. Now I'm annoyed at having to look for them. I never claimed to be logical about this!)

It doesn't just require that someone is the right kind of comfy person for me, although that is difficult enough - I have to (usually) be able to read them with little difficulty, trust that they will tend to speak up when they need to and tell me when there are things I need to know, _and_ have to have a good amount of mostly unconscious and inexplicable understanding of them. And this is completely ignoring that not all of these people will fit with who I am in the various other ways that would make them comfy for me. Which are, I'm sure, not all things I can even vaguely enumerate, although most of them are selected for by simply being someone I have enough interest in to _want_ to get to know them better.

It also requires that people want, have time for, and are themselves in a sane enough state to develop a relationship of whatever type best fits. It's especially irritating when it seems like, for the most part, people who fit (or seem like they might fit) the 'right for me' criteria never end up being _local_! (hell, they don't even seem to particularly want to be local to _each other_)

Sifting through people gets tiring after a while. It really does... And while having examples of people who _do_ fit this makes it easier to believe in the possibility, it also makes me far far more aware of the lack of someone _locally_ who fits so well. And therefore makes being patient more difficult, sometimes.

It's especially difficult when putting that amount of effort in, even when the other person is perfectly pleased with the friendship, doesn't necessarily mean that they won't just up and basically vanish on me.

Hi. I'm bitchy today. It's a damn good thing I'm not doing anything large group any time soon, because I am _not_ in the mindset for it. Y'know, thinking that trying to get to know new people isn't worth the effort is _not_ helpful for, well, meeting new people. Or getting to know people I don't really know very well yet.

I'm sure I'll be fine tomorrow. I'm just venting... Every so often I do this, because every so often the fact that I _don't_ have a local partner ('partner' is, I suspect, the category into which the degree of rightness-for-me I'm apparently talking about right now would best fit) decides to up and bite me. Mostly regardless of whatever else is going on in my life, although certainly things in my life _not_ inside my head can trigger this. *shakes head* On the plus side, unlike the last time I had this rant here, I _do_ have a partner now. You'd think that would help... *thinks* And, it probably does, when I'm not being all bitchy. ;)

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[wispfox.livejournal.com]

And _I_ really enjoyed you showering me with attention Sunday, too. ;) Much appreciated, oh yes.

(often I think it's a shame you've in Maine, yes...)

[echospiralheart.livejournal.com]

I was thinking that on Sunday night too. I'm amazed at how comfortable and open I am with you. Definately would like to spend more time just hanging out. Would you be interested in getting together before a working group one sunday. Heck, I'll be headed down to mass anyway. :) I can just leave earlier. :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Would you be interested in getting together before a working group one sunday.

Oh, _my_, yes! Presuming I'm around beforehand, yes! How does your August 8th look before Group?

[echospiralheart.livejournal.com]

thus far ... no plans ... I can certainly put you in and work other plans around that! :) Where would you like to meet? Remember, I'm not a great city girl. :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Where to meet. Well, we can try having you come to my place, if Andover isn't too much of a city for you?

[echospiralheart.livejournal.com]

Email me your address ... and directions ... I will probably be coming from 95 to 495. I'll look it over and see where it puts me. I've never been to andover, so don't know how city it is. If it's boston city, then that would be too much. I don't drive in boston. If it's more framingham city ... I'd be uncomfortable, but could do it.