[brains] accepting/asking for help

[wispfox]

Bits of words that I thought needed a wider audience.


"It's difficult, for me at least, to consider that my perspective on things inside my head might not be accurate to reality, because then I have to face the terrifying possibility that _none_ of what's in my head might be accurate to reality. Instant recipe for insanity, that!

Accepting help implies (in my head) that what I do is not enough. And perhaps will never be enough. I hate that.

But not accepting help ever puts too much of the burden on myself. And that's bad and self-defeating."

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I have _very_ much difficulty accepting help, and more difficulty yet asking for it. But I ask anyway. And I accept anyway. Because I am not someone who can cope with everything, all the time, on my own. Not and remain reasonably sane, happy, and stable.

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[ysabel.livejournal.com]

See, my worldview includes the axiom that senses in general are untrustworthy -- not just mine, but everyone's. Thus no one else's perception of an occurance can be any less flawed than mine is.

I'm willing to listen to other people's perceptions to help build a quorum when I'm trying to understand what might actually have happened, and I'm always willing to try to understand other people's experiences because it lets me understand them better, but I'm not willing to let someone just talk me out of my own perceptions.

Just because they're flawed doesn't mean they're not mine.

(Different way of coping with some similar things, I think. *hug*)

Obviously there's more to my worldview, but the fact that things have to be based on probabilities rather than certainies is a fundamental part of it... In some ways, it makes me more open to Weird Shit than most people, I think, because just because someone else didn't perceive something doesn't mean it didn't happen/isn't true/wasn't there/etc. I do try to keep a pretty keen eye on "general consensual reality" because I find that knowing what that is is useful in trying to function in society -- but I don't assume that general consensual reality has more than a passing correlation with Reality, whatever that is.

I went on and on at length about this in a post to proveyourgod relatively recently, actually...

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

See, my worldview includes the axiom that senses in general are untrustworthy -- not just mine, but everyone's. Thus no one else's perception of an occurance can be any less flawed than mine is.

Yep. That's my end goal. And I _am_ getting there.

just because someone else didn't perceive something doesn't mean it didn't happen/isn't true/wasn't there/etc.

True. But it helps when other people can verify, too - which is why I tend to gravitate toward people who have that likelyhood (ie, my info page mentioning filtering people based partly on mystical awareness).

I do try to keep a pretty keen eye on "general consensual reality" because I find that knowing what that is is useful in trying to function in society -- but I don't assume that general consensual reality has more than a passing correlation with Reality, whatever that is.

All stuff I'm trying to get a more firm grasp on, yes. :)

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

I, of course, am completely devoid of mystical awareness.

And prone to making sweeping facetious statements.

In case you hadn't noticed.

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

Hrm.

I should find the Faery post for you.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Yes! You should! *curious*

(have I mentioned that I tend toward insane curiosity? But I'm really good at not being pushy about it...)

[ysabel.livejournal.com]

Check these (http://www.livejournal.com/tools/memories.bml?user=ysabel&keyword=Faery&filter=all) out.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

In case you hadn't noticed.

*chuckle*

Not noticing, nope, not at all!