kibbles and bits! (and bits and bits and bits and bits...)

Yes, fine, Universe, I need to change my top three things to concentrate on (not that they are not important, but other things are _more_ important). They used to be "being more aware of things around me and within me", and "knowing when to let _go_".

Now, they still include "knowing when to let go" (this is probably going to be in my top three things to remember list for_ever_), but the other two seem to want to be "learning patience - both how and when", and "sometimes it's not about having something, but learning from that something what is possible".

It's funny that I have to learn patience, but it does make sense - waiting for things when I have trouble truly understanding _why_ I have to wait is _not_ something I'm good at. And... "Here, have an example of what is possible. See? Now you know it's possible. Wait! I didn't say you could _have_ it, just that it was possible!". (stupid universe...)

Hmm, maybe it's really just about being patient and knowing when to let go. Maybe there aren't three there.

OK, so what does my third one need to be? Probably still should keep being aware of things within me. I can't find anything else that is higher priority in my head than that, aside from the two already mentioned. (not that I'd have _stopped_ paying attention to myself, mind you!)



Found on carocrow's journal:

Faultfinding without suggestions for improvement is a waste of time.
~Ralph C. Smedley



pretty pictures!, on dewhitton's journal.



June is more than half over! And australian_joe will be here in... 4 days! And he'll be coming with me to the next Psinging! (excessive exclamation points, much?)



ROTFLMAO - OKcupid's "are you poly" test informs me that I am a:

Flaming Polyamorist
Congratulations! You scored 89% Polyamorous!

You are probably too poly for your own good! It sounds like you try to deal fairly and honestly in all your relationships and communication is a high priority with you! If you didn't cheat on this test, then you probably wouldn't cheat in real life! You, however, are a dyed in the rainbow colors of the parrot poly! So go stick your parrot sticker on your car, if you have one, and be proud!

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=18077398219449448050
(excessive exclamation points, but aside from that, I'm amused.)



I see a sign for Canobie Lake Park on the way to work every morning. I wanna _go_ - but not yet, as I am not sure it's warm enough yet, and I'd want to go on the water rides.

Also must go to the beach at least once this summer. Yes.

[edit: ok, the mood icon for cheerful (which is what I used in this post) is strange. What _is_ that yellow thing?!]

kibbles and bits! (and bits and bits and bits and bits...)

Yes, fine, Universe, I need to change my top three things to concentrate on (not that they are not important, but other things are _more_ important). They used to be "being more aware of things around me and within me", and "knowing when to let _go_".

Now, they still include "knowing when to let go" (this is probably going to be in my top three things to remember list for_ever_), but the other two seem to want to be "learning patience - both how and when", and "sometimes it's not about having something, but learning from that something what is possible".

It's funny that I have to learn patience, but it does make sense - waiting for things when I have trouble truly understanding _why_ I have to wait is _not_ something I'm good at. And... "Here, have an example of what is possible. See? Now you know it's possible. Wait! I didn't say you could _have_ it, just that it was possible!". (stupid universe...)

Hmm, maybe it's really just about being patient and knowing when to let go. Maybe there aren't three there.

OK, so what does my third one need to be? Probably still should keep being aware of things within me. I can't find anything else that is higher priority in my head than that, aside from the two already mentioned. (not that I'd have _stopped_ paying attention to myself, mind you!)



Found on carocrow's journal:

Faultfinding without suggestions for improvement is a waste of time.
~Ralph C. Smedley



pretty pictures!, on dewhitton's journal.



June is more than half over! And australian_joe will be here in... 4 days! And he'll be coming with me to the next Psinging! (excessive exclamation points, much?)



ROTFLMAO - OKcupid's "are you poly" test informs me that I am a:

Flaming Polyamorist
Congratulations! You scored 89% Polyamorous!

You are probably too poly for your own good! It sounds like you try to deal fairly and honestly in all your relationships and communication is a high priority with you! If you didn't cheat on this test, then you probably wouldn't cheat in real life! You, however, are a dyed in the rainbow colors of the parrot poly! So go stick your parrot sticker on your car, if you have one, and be proud!

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=18077398219449448050
(excessive exclamation points, but aside from that, I'm amused.)



I see a sign for Canobie Lake Park on the way to work every morning. I wanna _go_ - but not yet, as I am not sure it's warm enough yet, and I'd want to go on the water rides.

Also must go to the beach at least once this summer. Yes.

[edit: ok, the mood icon for cheerful (which is what I used in this post) is strange. What _is_ that yellow thing?!]

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Neat quote, kidnapped from echospiralheart:

"Expect everything to continue just as it is. Will that be okay with you in
six months? A year? Five years? It might seem like a contradiction to base a
current decision only on the present moment, when impermanence is one of the
basics of Buddhism. The point is this: To make a decision based on reality,
we have to accept that it will be this way forever because the present time
is the only truth we have. Otherwise, our decision is based on projections
and wishful thinking."
--Charlotte Kasl


Interesting thought, that. *contemplates*

(no subject)

Neat quote, kidnapped from echospiralheart:

"Expect everything to continue just as it is. Will that be okay with you in
six months? A year? Five years? It might seem like a contradiction to base a
current decision only on the present moment, when impermanence is one of the
basics of Buddhism. The point is this: To make a decision based on reality,
we have to accept that it will be this way forever because the present time
is the only truth we have. Otherwise, our decision is based on projections
and wishful thinking."
--Charlotte Kasl


Interesting thought, that. *contemplates*

(no subject)

Posts that want to know people's secret turn-offs and secret turn-ons.

I didn't comment in either one because I can't think of anything in either category - neither my turn-offs nor my turn-ons are particularly secret (assuming that one has reason to know, or I am feeling especially fond of my complete lack of an oversharing light and randomly post such things here - I'm pretty sure I have before!).

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Posts that want to know people's secret turn-offs and secret turn-ons.

I didn't comment in either one because I can't think of anything in either category - neither my turn-offs nor my turn-ons are particularly secret (assuming that one has reason to know, or I am feeling especially fond of my complete lack of an oversharing light and randomly post such things here - I'm pretty sure I have before!).

Brains...

OK, I'm all introspective (ok, perhaps that isn't all that noteworthy...) and stuff.

The idea of 'going on dates', as I believe it is generally understood, seems to be a combination of getting to know someone new and determining potential for a sexual relationship. It seems... odd to me to combine those two goals, because getting to know someone is, in my head, a perfectly delightful goal all on its own, and adding in conscious thought about a possible sexual relationship only adds large amounts of stress, confusion, and nervousness. It also makes it much more difficult to get to know a person entirely on the basis of who they are, rather than on future possibilities.

For me, getting to know someone _is_ an end goal, and generally one sparked by in-person meetings (sometimes planned, mostly not - and usually in decent-sized groups). I'd want to know more about them, whether I'm coming from a base of just having met them, or from some amount of knowledge gained before meeting them (online for example).

Sometimes, from friendship, comes the potential for some sort of relationship with includes sexual activity or the possibility thereof - but, for me, it always follows the friendship, and does not happen while trying to _form_ the friendship. (although, sometimes, I feel compelled to note, there has not been a whole lot of time between the two states. I've gotten much better at separating the two more clearly, since that _is_ how I work.)

It's true that, if I meet people online, I can form some level of interest in meeting them - certainly! But, for the most part, this is a fairly passive interest, and takes a fair amount (usually at least a few months of actual interaction) of time - I develop interest in meeting a person eventually, and won't, for example, feel a need to attempt to seek them out. This type of thing tends to result in me meeting a person at some sort of social activity that we'd both have been going to anyway. The actively seeking out also does happen based solely on online interaction (to my profound surprise), but ridiculously rarely.

So... I think that I'm very, very curious as to why it might make sense to any of you to do what I believe to be the 'typical' kind of dating, where getting to know people is simultaneous with investigating possibility of a sexual relationship. It seems... time-consuming, stressful, and not terribly effective for forming good bonds. But perhaps I'm misunderstanding something?

Note: I _do_ realize that there are cases where people meet, have an instant connection, and therefore the getting to know is simultaneous with _everything_. But those are special cases. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking so-called 'typical' forms of dating (for those who don't understand the concept of dating in the US - I think I've explained what I'm talking about in enough detail? Especially since I don't really understand it, either... and considering that that word can mean entirely too many things).

Brains...

OK, I'm all introspective (ok, perhaps that isn't all that noteworthy...) and stuff.

The idea of 'going on dates', as I believe it is generally understood, seems to be a combination of getting to know someone new and determining potential for a sexual relationship. It seems... odd to me to combine those two goals, because getting to know someone is, in my head, a perfectly delightful goal all on its own, and adding in conscious thought about a possible sexual relationship only adds large amounts of stress, confusion, and nervousness. It also makes it much more difficult to get to know a person entirely on the basis of who they are, rather than on future possibilities.

For me, getting to know someone _is_ an end goal, and generally one sparked by in-person meetings (sometimes planned, mostly not - and usually in decent-sized groups). I'd want to know more about them, whether I'm coming from a base of just having met them, or from some amount of knowledge gained before meeting them (online for example).

Sometimes, from friendship, comes the potential for some sort of relationship with includes sexual activity or the possibility thereof - but, for me, it always follows the friendship, and does not happen while trying to _form_ the friendship. (although, sometimes, I feel compelled to note, there has not been a whole lot of time between the two states. I've gotten much better at separating the two more clearly, since that _is_ how I work.)

It's true that, if I meet people online, I can form some level of interest in meeting them - certainly! But, for the most part, this is a fairly passive interest, and takes a fair amount (usually at least a few months of actual interaction) of time - I develop interest in meeting a person eventually, and won't, for example, feel a need to attempt to seek them out. This type of thing tends to result in me meeting a person at some sort of social activity that we'd both have been going to anyway. The actively seeking out also does happen based solely on online interaction (to my profound surprise), but ridiculously rarely.

So... I think that I'm very, very curious as to why it might make sense to any of you to do what I believe to be the 'typical' kind of dating, where getting to know people is simultaneous with investigating possibility of a sexual relationship. It seems... time-consuming, stressful, and not terribly effective for forming good bonds. But perhaps I'm misunderstanding something?

Note: I _do_ realize that there are cases where people meet, have an instant connection, and therefore the getting to know is simultaneous with _everything_. But those are special cases. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking so-called 'typical' forms of dating (for those who don't understand the concept of dating in the US - I think I've explained what I'm talking about in enough detail? Especially since I don't really understand it, either... and considering that that word can mean entirely too many things).

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related to nothing:

Is it wrong of me to go into gigglefits upon receiving spam snail mail from 'The Right One', addressed to "Current Single Resident"?

[edit: and now I'm entertained by the fact that I called it 'spam snail mail', rather than 'junk mail']

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related to nothing:

Is it wrong of me to go into gigglefits upon receiving spam snail mail from 'The Right One', addressed to "Current Single Resident"?

[edit: and now I'm entertained by the fact that I called it 'spam snail mail', rather than 'junk mail']