BDSM community and the prevalence of bi, poly, switches

[wispfox]

Cutting this because not everyone reading may _care_.


Someone recently asked on their journal what it is with the BDSM community and the prevalence of bi, poly, switches.

I thought about it, and have no idea how sensible my reply was, but thought I'd share it anyway.

Note that I really have no idea how accurate the initial statement about the prevalence of bi, poly, switches _is_, as I'm not very strongly a part of any BDSM communities. Then again, I'm not very strongly a part of _any_ communities...

My thoughts:

"Probably because people rarely start questioning who they are outside of the so-called "norm" unless they have multiple, or very, very _strong_, reasons to do so.

This can mean that someone is very determinedly _not_ normal in a specific manner (or a small number of them), or that they have a variety of things about themselves that are not normal. And if one is exploring one of them, why not explore all of them?"

Comments

[ladytabitha.livejournal.com]

I have kind of the opposite problem - I'm a switch, and I strangely meet a bunch of switches, and very few pure tops or bottoms.

While that's good and all, it doesn't lend itself to purity and focus, and sometimes I really want the focus that comes with sticking with one side of the Force.  :)

[cutieperson]

if'n you lemme know what you are lookin for i can point you at the purists.

[ladytabitha.livejournal.com]

Yes, I'd like the Toppish Value Meal, side of canes, with a Sprite, please!

*amused*  Didn't know I could order such things!  I am specifically looking nowadays for someone to administer a good caning kthx, but I tend to require that I know the person first.  Can't get into it otherwise.

[cutieperson]

new icon, just for you! (the value meal made me think of fries)

i um, know someone who could fill that order. dunno if zee chemistry is there, or if you require such things...

[underwatercolor.livejournal.com]

I heart the icon. :)

[ladytabitha.livejournal.com]

Oh eh, even possibilities enhearten me nowadays.  We(you+I) never signed anything that said it had to work out, yknow.  :)

Also, I lurv the icon.  :D

[moominmolly.livejournal.com]

Mmm, Force.

[ladytabitha.livejournal.com]

Mmm, Sprite.

[regyt.livejournal.com]

Ah. ^^ I'm a switch, but I really like other switches.

[ladytabitha.livejournal.com]

Why, if I may be so nosy?

[regyt.livejournal.com]

Certainly you may.

Mmm... the challenge and the risk of it.

Re: switches

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

It's been my experience that there those that do nothing but topping that are wishy-washy and those that switch that you would wish are not quite a pure in focus in what they are doing. It really depends on the person rather than the power-exchange orientation.