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Jan. 27th, 2004 01:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxToday, I was informed by co-workers of mine that I am imaginary. And that I'm a zombie. I'm an imaginary zombie? Does that mean people would, or would not, notice me eating their brain?
Also. The non-'partner' word I'm looking for. I'm looking for a word to describe the people in my life who I care very much about, with whom there either already is or probably will be some form of sexual relationship, but with whom there is not a connection of the type which would put them into the partner category. This may, even, include people who are in the process of becoming a partner (I don't know, as this is theoretical for me right now), since it's odd to call someone a partner, no matter how strong the connection, when one is still getting to know each other.
-I had been using friends+. But it feels... lacking.
-Lovers covers both categories, so isn't descriptive enough.
-Close friend works to describe the non-sexual part, I think, but not the type of relationship as mentioned above.
-Fuck buddy irritates the hell out of me, because it sounds so... demeaning. I've found that I simply don't have interest in sex without some level of connection, at least as strong as good friends (or the possibility thereof). Fuck buddies, at least in my head, doesn't have any sort of connection implied.
-Mates feels, again, to be too general.
-I kinda like dear ones, but it doesn't really feel right for me.
-Sweeties might work... but something feels wrong there, too. I haven't yet been able to pick out why, so this might actually be something I could use, once I figure out the why of the wrongness.
Hmm. It feels a little like it implies something about the relationship, so might be forcing some sort of expectation. The category which I'm trying to describe doesn't *have* any expectation, aside from that friendship continues, and any change in the relationship state is discussed between the two of us. So... possible expectation implication bothers me. There may not *be* a word for this, thinking about it...
Hmm. I seem to be somewhere between 'sweeties' and 'lovers' for a word choice. Close friend works in the case of there not being sexual expression of the relationship. I wonder if I can do something to combine the feelings behind these to find the one I *like*? (Heh. Close friend *and* lover, perhaps? Descriptive, and doesn't trigger feelings of possibly unexpressed expectations in my head...)
Also. The non-'partner' word I'm looking for. I'm looking for a word to describe the people in my life who I care very much about, with whom there either already is or probably will be some form of sexual relationship, but with whom there is not a connection of the type which would put them into the partner category. This may, even, include people who are in the process of becoming a partner (I don't know, as this is theoretical for me right now), since it's odd to call someone a partner, no matter how strong the connection, when one is still getting to know each other.
-I had been using friends+. But it feels... lacking.
-Lovers covers both categories, so isn't descriptive enough.
-Close friend works to describe the non-sexual part, I think, but not the type of relationship as mentioned above.
-Fuck buddy irritates the hell out of me, because it sounds so... demeaning. I've found that I simply don't have interest in sex without some level of connection, at least as strong as good friends (or the possibility thereof). Fuck buddies, at least in my head, doesn't have any sort of connection implied.
-Mates feels, again, to be too general.
-I kinda like dear ones, but it doesn't really feel right for me.
-Sweeties might work... but something feels wrong there, too. I haven't yet been able to pick out why, so this might actually be something I could use, once I figure out the why of the wrongness.
Hmm. It feels a little like it implies something about the relationship, so might be forcing some sort of expectation. The category which I'm trying to describe doesn't *have* any expectation, aside from that friendship continues, and any change in the relationship state is discussed between the two of us. So... possible expectation implication bothers me. There may not *be* a word for this, thinking about it...
Hmm. I seem to be somewhere between 'sweeties' and 'lovers' for a word choice. Close friend works in the case of there not being sexual expression of the relationship. I wonder if I can do something to combine the feelings behind these to find the one I *like*? (Heh. Close friend *and* lover, perhaps? Descriptive, and doesn't trigger feelings of possibly unexpressed expectations in my head...)
