One more, with feeling. ;)
Apr. 15th, 2003 02:32 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxYep. I'm babbly.
One more thought for the immediate future. I've decided that I need to stop being so apologetic about things. I don't always notice it, but when I *do* notice, it annoys me that I'm *so* cautious.
I have a reasonably strong belief that the people I interact with regularly lately are more than capable of *telling* me if I'm annoying them. So I don't need to (and *shouldn't* be) be spending so much time/energy worrying about it and trying to prevent it!
Specifically, I tend very much toward feeling like I'm pestering people about stuff if I send reminders or ask for clarifications or ask if something that was left unsaid was intentional or not. Either that I'm pestering them, or that I'm pushing them to agree to do things they don't want to.
Clarifications/reminders/etc, I personally like, because I tend to forget about things, and it's very easy for me to miss something when I'm listing things out. So I very much *like* that type of reminder, and like to offer other people the same type of memory aid. But I'm always afraid that that type of reminder will irritate or offend other people. And I can't generally tell if that is ever likely to be true.
And, on my part, I just like to have a vague sense of who is or is not interested in/available for things I suggest. Lack of interest doesn't offend me. But lack of knowing one way or another often makes me very nervous and uncertain.
One more thought for the immediate future. I've decided that I need to stop being so apologetic about things. I don't always notice it, but when I *do* notice, it annoys me that I'm *so* cautious.
I have a reasonably strong belief that the people I interact with regularly lately are more than capable of *telling* me if I'm annoying them. So I don't need to (and *shouldn't* be) be spending so much time/energy worrying about it and trying to prevent it!
Specifically, I tend very much toward feeling like I'm pestering people about stuff if I send reminders or ask for clarifications or ask if something that was left unsaid was intentional or not. Either that I'm pestering them, or that I'm pushing them to agree to do things they don't want to.
Clarifications/reminders/etc, I personally like, because I tend to forget about things, and it's very easy for me to miss something when I'm listing things out. So I very much *like* that type of reminder, and like to offer other people the same type of memory aid. But I'm always afraid that that type of reminder will irritate or offend other people. And I can't generally tell if that is ever likely to be true.
And, on my part, I just like to have a vague sense of who is or is not interested in/available for things I suggest. Lack of interest doesn't offend me. But lack of knowing one way or another often makes me very nervous and uncertain.
