To be shy, or not to be shy
Apr. 15th, 2003 05:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxRecent email conversation made me think of the randomness with which I can sometimes be very *very* not shy.
There are times when I remember meeting people for the first time. Generally, these times involve all of the following:
a) spending lots of time chatting with a person
b) meeting them one on one
c) a very strong interest in spending more time with them
d) me making an effort to go up to and chat with a complete stranger
The first such vivid example would be someone that I still miss...
I met her because she was playing a flute while waiting for a bus in Concord, NH (I lived there at the time). Hearing people playing music will rarely fail to get my attention, and probably cause me to go investigate unless I have a *very* strong time-crunch issue.
We chatted for a while, while waiting for the bus to arrive. I did not manage to get her contact info (I tend to be bad at this, especially if a brief meeting), but did catch a mention of a friend of hers who owned a native american store in downtown Laconia, NH (where I grew up). The next time I was in Laconia, I went to the store in question, and found the store owner. With huge amounts of nerves, I asked for info on how to contact her. Apparently, she'd mentioned me, so he gave it to me.
Sadly, I've since lost contact with her - she moved back to Georgia while I was at UNH, and I did not get an address. She was easily the most intense (though short!) of all the relationships I've ever had. I miss her often.
A similar lack of shyness came up more recently, when I was a senior in college. Went to a Drag Ball, but knew no one there. For some reason unknown to me, now or then, I went up to a group of people and just started chatting with them (I later learned that everyone in the group thought I knew one of them). This resulted in me making a friend of a freshman who I eventually ended up sorta dating after I graduated. It would probably have happened while I was still *at* the school, but neither I nor my former SO realized at the time that we were both interested in poly. *sigh*
"Sorta" dating because we were both really busy, as well as because the relationship I was in at the time had been having troubles before we both realized we were interested in poly.
I really ought to see how she's doing. It's not been easy to get in touch with her, so I haven't seen her recently.
It's always interesting to me to see how very unshy I can be. And yet, I can be *so* shy at times. I confuse me. :)
There are times when I remember meeting people for the first time. Generally, these times involve all of the following:
a) spending lots of time chatting with a person
b) meeting them one on one
c) a very strong interest in spending more time with them
d) me making an effort to go up to and chat with a complete stranger
The first such vivid example would be someone that I still miss...
I met her because she was playing a flute while waiting for a bus in Concord, NH (I lived there at the time). Hearing people playing music will rarely fail to get my attention, and probably cause me to go investigate unless I have a *very* strong time-crunch issue.
We chatted for a while, while waiting for the bus to arrive. I did not manage to get her contact info (I tend to be bad at this, especially if a brief meeting), but did catch a mention of a friend of hers who owned a native american store in downtown Laconia, NH (where I grew up). The next time I was in Laconia, I went to the store in question, and found the store owner. With huge amounts of nerves, I asked for info on how to contact her. Apparently, she'd mentioned me, so he gave it to me.
Sadly, I've since lost contact with her - she moved back to Georgia while I was at UNH, and I did not get an address. She was easily the most intense (though short!) of all the relationships I've ever had. I miss her often.
A similar lack of shyness came up more recently, when I was a senior in college. Went to a Drag Ball, but knew no one there. For some reason unknown to me, now or then, I went up to a group of people and just started chatting with them (I later learned that everyone in the group thought I knew one of them). This resulted in me making a friend of a freshman who I eventually ended up sorta dating after I graduated. It would probably have happened while I was still *at* the school, but neither I nor my former SO realized at the time that we were both interested in poly. *sigh*
"Sorta" dating because we were both really busy, as well as because the relationship I was in at the time had been having troubles before we both realized we were interested in poly.
I really ought to see how she's doing. It's not been easy to get in touch with her, so I haven't seen her recently.
It's always interesting to me to see how very unshy I can be. And yet, I can be *so* shy at times. I confuse me. :)
