I tend to feel like I'm babbling if I'm doing a lot of talking with no one else saying anything.
I like to think that all properly self-aware people feel this way, but that's probably just wishful thinking combined with a kind of misplaced "patting myself on the back" (i.e., I like to think I always notice when I've been babbling; and, when I notice, I always apologize right away). In any case, when the shoe is on the other foot, the only people I … hmmmmm … lose patience with? am really irritated by? … anyway … are those who never seem to notice, never seem to feel like they're babbling, when, in fact, they're busy babbling my ear off. Of course, I tend also to have much more patience with my friends than with total strangers from out of the crowd; but that's part of what friendships all about, eh? Further, as I frequently say these days, I very much want to hear important things I don't know, even if it means I have also to hear a bunch of things I already know or don't care a lot about. (On the most simple level, it goes like this: "Oh, you already knew you were supposed to turn here? I'm sorry." "No worry! Better you should tell me something I already know than we miss the turn.")
Except for when I'm actually in a conversation, I believe most of the people who are the least bit close to us are perfectly willing to put up with a bit of babbling from us. Especially when we admit that we feel that's what we're doing.
In any case, there was much here in your post that I related to and found meaningful — thanks for saying (writing) it. I, too, find it easier to say things in writing, except when I can't figure how to get started, or when I run out of steam too soon and with too little said, or decide it's all stupid and delete it instead of posting/sending it (as I probably should with this reply…), or…
(Hope you don't mind me being here. I saw your response to rosefox, popped over here, and was impressed by this.)
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Date: 2003-11-10 08:57 pm (UTC)I like to think that all properly self-aware people feel this way, but that's probably just wishful thinking combined with a kind of misplaced "patting myself on the back" (i.e., I like to think I always notice when I've been babbling; and, when I notice, I always apologize right away). In any case, when the shoe is on the other foot, the only people I … hmmmmm … lose patience with? am really irritated by? … anyway … are those who never seem to notice, never seem to feel like they're babbling, when, in fact, they're busy babbling my ear off. Of course, I tend also to have much more patience with my friends than with total strangers from out of the crowd; but that's part of what friendships all about, eh? Further, as I frequently say these days, I very much want to hear important things I don't know, even if it means I have also to hear a bunch of things I already know or don't care a lot about. (On the most simple level, it goes like this: "Oh, you already knew you were supposed to turn here? I'm sorry." "No worry! Better you should tell me something I already know than we miss the turn.")
Except for when I'm actually in a conversation, I believe most of the people who are the least bit close to us are perfectly willing to put up with a bit of babbling from us. Especially when we admit that we feel that's what we're doing.
In any case, there was much here in your post that I related to and found meaningful — thanks for saying (writing) it. I, too, find it easier to say things in writing, except when I can't figure how to get started, or when I run out of steam too soon and with too little said, or decide it's all stupid and delete it instead of posting/sending it (as I probably should with this reply…), or…
(Hope you don't mind me being here. I saw your response to