The primary category for me is "existance is change"; under that are things like "people", "culture", "rocks", whatever. "People can change" is only more noteworthy because... I can't find the right words for it, but, social interactions are more emotionally charged, or have the potential for such, than other things.
It can sometimes be hard to remember, especially in the face of negative encounters. "She's a worthless vile bitch" is poisonous, because I've closed off any possibility of her changing in my eyes, and because I've... introduced or reinforced closed-offedness in my own mind. So it's important to remember that people can change (at all) both to increase the possibilities of future interaction (optimism!) and to not introduce rigidity to my own brain.
Past that, I think you're a nutter, but that's attractive to me in certain aspects, so. :)
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Date: 2005-07-30 09:57 pm (UTC)It can sometimes be hard to remember, especially in the face of negative encounters. "She's a worthless vile bitch" is poisonous, because I've closed off any possibility of her changing in my eyes, and because I've... introduced or reinforced closed-offedness in my own mind. So it's important to remember that people can change (at all) both to increase the possibilities of future interaction (optimism!) and to not introduce rigidity to my own brain.
Past that, I think you're a nutter, but that's attractive to me in certain aspects, so. :)