[myers-briggs bits]

[wispfox]

OK, so I appear to be a INFJ with both S and P tendancies. So perhaps I'm an IxFx. Helpful, aren't I? (oh, wait, ISFJ appears to not be me. Or not be enough me to be worth including) (I begin to think that ISFP is more what I used to be and am working my way away from) (Huh. Maybe I'm just an INFx?)


How to Love a
INFJ:
* Appreciate my unique vision and many creative ideas. Mmm. ok. Not sure about this one. I am unconvinced of my creativity, much as I would _like_ to be creative
* Respect my deeply held beliefs and values. _hell_, yeah. Absolutely required. Discussion is fine and good, but don't try to tell me flat out that something I believe deeply is wrong.
* Share your feelings and express your opinions. Absolutely. Do this. Do this! I cannot relax around people who I cannot trust to tell me what they need/want when they need/want it, or don't tell what they are thinking/feeling that I should know about
* Give me time alone to pursue my interests and passions in depth. Yes. Time alone vital. Not so sure about the use of it for interests/passions, though.
* Try to keep our home orderly. This only matters if one lives with me, but yes. If I can't access things I want/need, I get cranky, quickly
* Above all - trust my inspiration and encourage me to make my dreams come true. Gods, yes! 'Course, I do sorta need to know what my dreams _are_, no?

INFP:
* Appreciate my uniqueness and sensitivity. Good gods, yes!
* Be a patient and supportive listener. Sometimes. Sometimes, _listen_, sometimes discuss. Never argue. Arguments do _not_ make me happy. Especially if they start getting loud.
* Respect my privacy and my need for emotional intimacy. Yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes
* Be reassuring and gentle in your words and actions. Yes... not always required, but generally.
* Try not to force decisions too quickly, or bug me about being messy. The former, yes. Gods, yes. NOT WITH THE FORCING OF DECISIONS! To the latter - fairly unlikely to come up. Clutter on non-floor surfaces, yes, with periodic clearing off. Not messy, though.
* Above all - respect my feelings and never demand that I compromise my values. Yes!

ISFP:
* Be a patient and supportive listener; make it safe for me to speak my mind. YES
* Appreciate my gentle, nurturing nature and ability to find joy in simple pleasures. former, sometimes. Latter, definitely
* Express your love and affection freely and often! Yes.
* Demonstrate your devotion in thoughtful actions. Yes.
* Try not to nag me about order, or force decisions too quickly. former, not so much. Latter, yes.

How to Spot a:
INFJ:
* reserved, proper, and cautious at first *chuckle* Yes. Quite.
* creative, visionary, and complex Not sure about this one.
* decisive with strong convictions and values Um. Hmm. Well, I'm far more decisive than I used to be, but I don't really think I'm all _that_ decisive. Strong convictions/values, yes.
* thoughtful, figurative language I try. Language is not my skill, though

INFPs:
* idealistic with deep yet private passions Idealistic, _oh_, yes. deep/private passions? Not sure. I think so...
* creative and imaginative creative, not sure. Imaginative, _yes_.
* initially hesitant and cautious Yes!
* original, even funky dressers not so much

ISFPs:
* gentle, soft-spoken, and modest Often. Not always.
* relaxed, easygoing, and accommodating Often, although I'm getting better about not being overly accommodating
* unassuming and not terribly assertive Sometimes. Depends on how important something is to me. Again, I'm getting better. I think this might be where I used to be.
* fun loving, caring, and sensitive Yes. Yes, yes, yes. But I tend to hide the sensitive.

Tips for Communicating with a:
INFJ:
* Present your idea in terms of your vision with an emphasis on the larger goals huh?
* Appeal to their creativity I suppose. No, not really. Appeal to my sense of right and/or logic, more
* Expect a careful consideration and then an in-depth discussion of ideas YES!

INFPs:
* Share genuine beliefs and values to establish rapport YES!
* Respect their slower warm time and need for privacy Yes.
* Emphasize the ways ideas will benefit others Mmm. I can't speak to this. I don't think I can explain what makes something 'right' in my head.

ISFPs:
* Avoid confrontations! Be cooperative and gentle Sorta. Don't attack. I _will_ react badly.
* Stress the practical ways they can be of assistance to others Not sure. Again. I'm not sure what makes things 'right' in my head
* Make projects fun - enjoy the moment with them Yes. Not strongly, but yes.

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