[brains.social]

[wispfox]

I'm _so_ very socially weird right now.

Seriously insufficient amounts of low key interaction with people lately. (Some moderate interaction with people, in which category work and interacting with people I don't know very well falls. And some high effort interaction, upon a request from a friend)

I think I wasn't entirely fully aware, until the past couple of months, just how much I rely on having a roommate around that I'm comfortable with for low key interaction purposes. I don't particularly need to be interacting directly with anyone right now; I just want people around while we each do our own things, natter about random stuff, or something. Low key also includes cuddly behaviors, which I certainly wouldn't mind, but that's not actually what I'm craving (probably because I've switched out of winter mode, where touch is significantly higher priority than just spending time with people is. Probably also because cuddling/prolonged touch - unless spontaneous - tends often to not really be that low effort).

Really, what I want very much is a college dorm-like place full of people whose company I enjoy. That way, the social jump-start period I have at the beginning of spring isn't so very frustrating for me, because it'll be so very much easier to find and get to people when I spontaneously want to be social. (probably helps with my winding down period in fall, as well, because less effort is required to get together with people, so it's less problematic to _stop_ getting together with people. Incidentally, I think I _did_ do regular - weekly, I think - things with people in college. Huh)

It's amusing me how much I sometimes miss college life, even though I have _far_ more of a social life now than I did then. More people that I know and like, more people that I can see potential for friendship, and more people that I actually am close to. And yet, see me bitching. *sigh*

[edit: I _do_ have people I intend to visit after Spectrum and feeding my cat tonight. Yay for spontaneous invites!]

Comments

[motyl.livejournal.com]

I just want people around while we each do our own things, natter about random stuff, or something.

Hm... I'd invite you to come over and read around us, but I suspect getting here would be more effort than it'd be worth =P

But I know what you mean - I have sufficient friends up here but I miss them having my friends being rooms away rather than miles away. It was so much more convenient...

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Hm... I'd invite you to come over and read around us, but I suspect getting here would be more effort than it'd be worth =P

Well, I do have somewhere to be later tonight, thankfully.

I don't actually have any idea where you _are_, actually. Have we yet met?

[motyl.livejournal.com]

Indeed. At a party of one majes. I chatted with you on the couch for quite a while though you did warn me that you were highly unlikely to remember my lj name (as it was not written down on my nametag)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Hmm.

I am entirely uncertain as to who you are, although I remember there being a fairly small number of people that I spent any time talking to. (and, incidentally, I don't remember names in general very well, although written is easier)

Hmm...

[motyl.livejournal.com]

Well if you make majes's next party, I'll reintroduce myself there :-)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Noted! I probably won't, I suspect, due to low energy. :)

[jasra]

That sounds like a cool place to live. :) Lemme know if you find it.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Will do. :)

Hell, I'd want you living there!

[jasra]

Yay!

[ian-gunn.livejournal.com]

What you want is an intentional community and/or co-housing development. Seek them out. There is one being developed among some of your LJ friends in the Mosaic (http://www.mosaic-commons.org/) co-housing project, though you might be better off with one someplace with more sun.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

a) They tend to be buying, not renting
b) I'm not yet anywhere that I want to settle

But yes, I know about them.

[ian-gunn.livejournal.com]

True. I pointed it out on the chance you had not run into the concept as of yet. I imagine that the social environment of a co-housing development would in part emulate some of the experiences of dorm life you note would be healthy for you to have, easy access to social contact on a regular basis etc...

While getting a co-housing development started requires an investment in buying a house I guess that some established ones will have rooms for rent, to the right people. Given that Mosaic seems to have a number of poly folk involved I would not at all be surprised of a few extra rooms being built for future use that in the mean time might be rented. That's just a guess though.