[rant] Evite
Mar. 21st, 2005 03:08 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxIn an entirely different train of thought, excuse me for a moment while I rant.
I _hate_ evites. I will follow them, and use them, since I mostly only get them from people I have some desire to actually stay in contact with and attend the parties of.
However, evites don't contain date, time, general idea of party in the email subject line or body. This makes them immensely annoying if I am not yet sure if I want to attend a party and want to decide later, because it's harder for me to use the email as a reminder to myself to make a decision, as there is no timing information in the email. I am _far_ less likely to have time/initiative to follow a link in my email than to just re-read my email.
I hate having to go to a website just to tell someone if I want to attend a party. The high annoyance factor has meant that it's entirely possible for a party I'm not sure about to be something I don't attend, either because I forget to decide, or because I just don't want to handle the annoyance.
Additionally, evite party invites tend to have huge, highly-visible-in-the-invite guest lists, so I can never quite shake the feeling of my presence not really being particularly important to the invitee, which also tends to make me less interested in attending. I seem to get a stronger sense of actively being wanted at a party if the invite and party information is sent via email, _even if I know the party, guest list, and distribution list are huge_. Considering that I rarely actively want to attend large group parties due to energy levels, this makes a significant difference in my interest.
Yeesh. I can tell it's no longer winter because people are sending out evites again.
I _hate_ evites. I will follow them, and use them, since I mostly only get them from people I have some desire to actually stay in contact with and attend the parties of.
However, evites don't contain date, time, general idea of party in the email subject line or body. This makes them immensely annoying if I am not yet sure if I want to attend a party and want to decide later, because it's harder for me to use the email as a reminder to myself to make a decision, as there is no timing information in the email. I am _far_ less likely to have time/initiative to follow a link in my email than to just re-read my email.
I hate having to go to a website just to tell someone if I want to attend a party. The high annoyance factor has meant that it's entirely possible for a party I'm not sure about to be something I don't attend, either because I forget to decide, or because I just don't want to handle the annoyance.
Additionally, evite party invites tend to have huge, highly-visible-in-the-invite guest lists, so I can never quite shake the feeling of my presence not really being particularly important to the invitee, which also tends to make me less interested in attending. I seem to get a stronger sense of actively being wanted at a party if the invite and party information is sent via email, _even if I know the party, guest list, and distribution list are huge_. Considering that I rarely actively want to attend large group parties due to energy levels, this makes a significant difference in my interest.
Yeesh. I can tell it's no longer winter because people are sending out evites again.
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Date: 2005-03-21 09:39 pm (UTC)it being how you perceive it does not necessarily translate to others viewing it the same. unfortunately, people don't tend to look at things from all angles, and even if they did it would be hard to think of every possible reaction.
my point was though, saying "whatever, you don't need to receive it at all" places everything on the person who doesn't like the method of inviting, and nothing on the host to make receiving invites easy/pleasant for their guests.
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Date: 2005-03-21 09:41 pm (UTC)Communication. It's what's for dinner.
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Date: 2005-03-21 09:53 pm (UTC)as your icon says, whatever. i'm not the one looking at getting invites or not from you. i just thought what you wrote was a little one-sided & written as if you took the rant as a personal attack, and i knew at least part of what likely sparked wispfox's rant was a poll that someone on our respective friends lists posted about whether or not people hate evite.
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Date: 2005-03-21 09:58 pm (UTC)