You do not have time to have any meaningful interaction with more then a tiny fraction of them.
Yes. But in order for me to figure out who that tiny fraction _is_, I have a fair number of filters. Some of which can make it seem like I've gone from 'huh! You're neat and I want to eat your brain' to 'ok, I am good with seeing you at parties and that's it' with no apparent reason for the change.
And it's when I do _that_ that I feel like I'm being fickle.
I don't mind it as much if I run into people and know from the beginning that they are people-I-like-to-run-into-at-parties. And I am fine with running into people who fascinate me and _continue_ to fascinate me when I get to know them better.
I don't like the middle state, where I initially think someone is fascinating, and then realize that there is something about them (usually that they are difficult for me to read, or that they are crazy in incompatible ways with the ways that I am crazy. Others, too, but those are most common).
And, I don't mind hanging out with people who ping me to hang out but are not strongly in my fascinated/want to get to know better category, but it'll happen infrequently, and I am unlikely to be pinging them.
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Date: 2005-02-04 04:17 pm (UTC)I'm mostly not. Sometimes, I am, but mostly not.
You do not have time to have any meaningful interaction with more then a tiny fraction of them.
Yes. But in order for me to figure out who that tiny fraction _is_, I have a fair number of filters. Some of which can make it seem like I've gone from 'huh! You're neat and I want to eat your brain' to 'ok, I am good with seeing you at parties and that's it' with no apparent reason for the change.
And it's when I do _that_ that I feel like I'm being fickle.
I don't mind it as much if I run into people and know from the beginning that they are people-I-like-to-run-into-at-parties. And I am fine with running into people who fascinate me and _continue_ to fascinate me when I get to know them better.
I don't like the middle state, where I initially think someone is fascinating, and then realize that there is something about them (usually that they are difficult for me to read, or that they are crazy in incompatible ways with the ways that I am crazy. Others, too, but those are most common).
And, I don't mind hanging out with people who ping me to hang out but are not strongly in my fascinated/want to get to know better category, but it'll happen infrequently, and I am unlikely to be pinging them.