[distraction]
Nov. 22nd, 2004 12:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxOh, right! Forgot about that...
There are instances when I do, in fact, notice and get strongly affected by people's physical beauty.
I have to not know them, though, because people's brains/emotions/etc will catch and keep my attention far more effectively and often. (I suspect that I also tend to parse out most pieces of physical appearance as not important, most of the time - there's too many other things that _are_ important to pay attention to, so I'm fairly (and automatically) ruthless about parsing out what I don't need. This does mean that having some piece of someone's physical appearance pointed out, even when I'm in the middle of interacting with them, can thoroughly startle me)
This post brought to you by a random brief interaction with a very lovely Latina (for those who don't know Spanish, definitely female) on my way to the restroom. I have no idea if this is a co-worker or mine or not. I was too strongly affected by gorgeousness to think to ask.
I also tend to forget how _much_ more likely it is for me to find dark eyes/hair instantly attractive than pretty much anything else, because I usually don't notice these things if I know a person at _all_. (which, yes, does make it interesting trying to describe people. I've tended to make a point of attempting to notice and remember these things for people I'm dating. I don't always succeed, though) And... I _think_ dark hair/eyes is less common where I tend to be interacting with people, as well.
Yep. Yummy woman. Hopefully I wasn't obvious in my appreciation/distraction!
There are instances when I do, in fact, notice and get strongly affected by people's physical beauty.
I have to not know them, though, because people's brains/emotions/etc will catch and keep my attention far more effectively and often. (I suspect that I also tend to parse out most pieces of physical appearance as not important, most of the time - there's too many other things that _are_ important to pay attention to, so I'm fairly (and automatically) ruthless about parsing out what I don't need. This does mean that having some piece of someone's physical appearance pointed out, even when I'm in the middle of interacting with them, can thoroughly startle me)
This post brought to you by a random brief interaction with a very lovely Latina (for those who don't know Spanish, definitely female) on my way to the restroom. I have no idea if this is a co-worker or mine or not. I was too strongly affected by gorgeousness to think to ask.
I also tend to forget how _much_ more likely it is for me to find dark eyes/hair instantly attractive than pretty much anything else, because I usually don't notice these things if I know a person at _all_. (which, yes, does make it interesting trying to describe people. I've tended to make a point of attempting to notice and remember these things for people I'm dating. I don't always succeed, though) And... I _think_ dark hair/eyes is less common where I tend to be interacting with people, as well.
Yep. Yummy woman. Hopefully I wasn't obvious in my appreciation/distraction!
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Date: 2004-11-22 08:40 pm (UTC)A beautiful person - boy or girl for me - used to be accompanied by lots of lust (sexual imaginings) and desire (I WANT!), but not so much as before. I guess I have had enough experience with lust and desire being a great effort to negoitate and rarely matching the imagined outcome. Maybe I just have enough yummy experiences in my memory banks to feel like I've had satisfying adventures that continue to satisfy me today. The end result is I rarely see people as immediate sex objects like I once did.
Distracting, though, yes -- a face, a movement, swing of the hair, a muscled leg, haunting eyes -- can grasp my attention and regrasp it despite attempts to be disinterested. I find my eyes drawn back to look again...