[distraction]
Nov. 22nd, 2004 12:43 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxOh, right! Forgot about that...
There are instances when I do, in fact, notice and get strongly affected by people's physical beauty.
I have to not know them, though, because people's brains/emotions/etc will catch and keep my attention far more effectively and often. (I suspect that I also tend to parse out most pieces of physical appearance as not important, most of the time - there's too many other things that _are_ important to pay attention to, so I'm fairly (and automatically) ruthless about parsing out what I don't need. This does mean that having some piece of someone's physical appearance pointed out, even when I'm in the middle of interacting with them, can thoroughly startle me)
This post brought to you by a random brief interaction with a very lovely Latina (for those who don't know Spanish, definitely female) on my way to the restroom. I have no idea if this is a co-worker or mine or not. I was too strongly affected by gorgeousness to think to ask.
I also tend to forget how _much_ more likely it is for me to find dark eyes/hair instantly attractive than pretty much anything else, because I usually don't notice these things if I know a person at _all_. (which, yes, does make it interesting trying to describe people. I've tended to make a point of attempting to notice and remember these things for people I'm dating. I don't always succeed, though) And... I _think_ dark hair/eyes is less common where I tend to be interacting with people, as well.
Yep. Yummy woman. Hopefully I wasn't obvious in my appreciation/distraction!
There are instances when I do, in fact, notice and get strongly affected by people's physical beauty.
I have to not know them, though, because people's brains/emotions/etc will catch and keep my attention far more effectively and often. (I suspect that I also tend to parse out most pieces of physical appearance as not important, most of the time - there's too many other things that _are_ important to pay attention to, so I'm fairly (and automatically) ruthless about parsing out what I don't need. This does mean that having some piece of someone's physical appearance pointed out, even when I'm in the middle of interacting with them, can thoroughly startle me)
This post brought to you by a random brief interaction with a very lovely Latina (for those who don't know Spanish, definitely female) on my way to the restroom. I have no idea if this is a co-worker or mine or not. I was too strongly affected by gorgeousness to think to ask.
I also tend to forget how _much_ more likely it is for me to find dark eyes/hair instantly attractive than pretty much anything else, because I usually don't notice these things if I know a person at _all_. (which, yes, does make it interesting trying to describe people. I've tended to make a point of attempting to notice and remember these things for people I'm dating. I don't always succeed, though) And... I _think_ dark hair/eyes is less common where I tend to be interacting with people, as well.
Yep. Yummy woman. Hopefully I wasn't obvious in my appreciation/distraction!
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Date: 2004-11-22 06:21 pm (UTC)I think that this is one of my character flaws. I notice physical attractiveness to a fault. And not just gorgeousness I notice beautiful traits! I'll be working at the library and see a very average girl with really nice hair, or gorgeous eyes, or even a cute nose, and my mind will immediately wander to thoughts of being between the sheets with her. A girl really needs to be BEASTLY looking for me not to even have a passing interest in her.
However, a lot of times my mind fast-forwards to sex, without thinking of any of the before-or-after effects. I don't think: "I'd love to sleep with her, but I guess I would have to clear it with my wifey, make sure she's uncharacteristically okay with it, then approach the girl, find out her name, ask her out for coffee, get her into bed without it seeming like a sleazy come-on, then hope she agrees". It's always: "GIRL!! WANT! NOW!". And of course, I never think: "And even if she WOULD sleep with me, I hope she has a nice personality, pleasant demeanor, and is significantly more intelligent than your average brass paperweight...".
Of course, I'm NOT, actually, a living breathing sexual impulse that thinks of women purely as sexual objects. If a woman starts speaking, and has the personality of closed-cell foam insulation, I'd want nothing to do with her. But my immediate reaction is always: "OOH! She has a sexy appendectomy scar!! I WANT!"
Especially by lovely Latinas... [rowrrrr...]