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wispfoxMajor fustration, especially if my resources are already taxed, can make me start crying. This is annoying, because in all cases I can think of, that fact only serves to frustrate me further. This is, actually, the initial reason for me having developed such ridiculous control over crying. Of course, the fact that it can still happen probably illustrates that it's not doing a very good job (but at least I recover fairly quickly).
My communication skills - both interpretive and expressive - go to hell in a handbasket when I'm stressed and/or tired. Since being stressed makes it difficult for me to sleep, this makes things interesting. And since communication often makes stressful things less stressful (in the long-term, if not the short-term), this tends to add to the stress. So does the fact that being stressed and/or tired dramatically increases the number of mistakes being made, because my ability to think is dramatically reduced by both.
*sigh*
[edit] Speaking of communication skills going to hell in a handbasket...
There was an entire other topic I forgot to write in here. I think the best explanation of my communication skills going batty is that my sanity checker stops working. This means that my interpretation of what's coming in, and what's going out, isn't being checked at an appropriate point.
When coming in, I tend to need to sanity check to make sure what I understood makes _sense_. This includes that I might have misinterpreted (ie, missed body language or tonal cues to indicate sarcasm or teasing), or that I got the wrong meaning behind the possible interpretation of the words used. I've generally got a pretty good sanity checker, probably because I had to develop it. I didn't, for example, understand teasing or sarcasm until sometime in high school. I suspect that I only do now because my sanity checker makes me notice body language and tone cues after my initial interpretation of the statements made.
When words are going out, I tend to need to sanity check to make sure I said everything I wanted to say on the topic (this edit is an example of my not having succeeded at that), that what I said makes any _sense_, and that what I said didn't throw in too much completely irrelevant information.
My communication skills - both interpretive and expressive - go to hell in a handbasket when I'm stressed and/or tired. Since being stressed makes it difficult for me to sleep, this makes things interesting. And since communication often makes stressful things less stressful (in the long-term, if not the short-term), this tends to add to the stress. So does the fact that being stressed and/or tired dramatically increases the number of mistakes being made, because my ability to think is dramatically reduced by both.
*sigh*
[edit] Speaking of communication skills going to hell in a handbasket...
There was an entire other topic I forgot to write in here. I think the best explanation of my communication skills going batty is that my sanity checker stops working. This means that my interpretation of what's coming in, and what's going out, isn't being checked at an appropriate point.
When coming in, I tend to need to sanity check to make sure what I understood makes _sense_. This includes that I might have misinterpreted (ie, missed body language or tonal cues to indicate sarcasm or teasing), or that I got the wrong meaning behind the possible interpretation of the words used. I've generally got a pretty good sanity checker, probably because I had to develop it. I didn't, for example, understand teasing or sarcasm until sometime in high school. I suspect that I only do now because my sanity checker makes me notice body language and tone cues after my initial interpretation of the statements made.
When words are going out, I tend to need to sanity check to make sure I said everything I wanted to say on the topic (this edit is an example of my not having succeeded at that), that what I said makes any _sense_, and that what I said didn't throw in too much completely irrelevant information.
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