*points at a comment made in the comment you replied to*
people can go on dates with people who are nothing more than friends
But the thing is, this is _not_ the typical idea of a date. And it's not the kind of date for which knowing someone's availability makes any sense.
It's far, far closer to what _I_ do when I go on dates with people, and I rarely actually use that phraseology for the reasons of severe confusion. To _me_, 'going on a date' implies one-on-one, and requires that I've at least met someone, preferably more than once. It does _not_ imply anything but getting to know a person better, and implies a (generally stated on my part) interest in getting to know the person better in order to develop a friendship.
I tend to avoid the word 'date' when indicating interest in knowing people better, because of the confusion factor. I technically, at least in the common usage of the word, don't 'go on dates', except with people I'm _already_ involved with. I go hang out with people, I do things with people, but I don't call it a date.
Yes, I'm aware that it's nit-picky terminology stuff, but this is _important_ - there are entirely too many words which mean entirely different things to different people, and most of them don't realize this fact.
(Also, I feel like I'm starting to have to repeat myself in trying to explain things to you, which is frustrating the hell out of me, and probably implies a fairly basic disconnect and low level assumptions being made on one or both of our parts)
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Date: 2004-06-18 06:44 pm (UTC)people can go on dates with people who are nothing more than friends
But the thing is, this is _not_ the typical idea of a date. And it's not the kind of date for which knowing someone's availability makes any sense.
It's far, far closer to what _I_ do when I go on dates with people, and I rarely actually use that phraseology for the reasons of severe confusion. To _me_, 'going on a date' implies one-on-one, and requires that I've at least met someone, preferably more than once. It does _not_ imply anything but getting to know a person better, and implies a (generally stated on my part) interest in getting to know the person better in order to develop a friendship.
I tend to avoid the word 'date' when indicating interest in knowing people better, because of the confusion factor. I technically, at least in the common usage of the word, don't 'go on dates', except with people I'm _already_ involved with. I go hang out with people, I do things with people, but I don't call it a date.
Yes, I'm aware that it's nit-picky terminology stuff, but this is _important_ - there are entirely too many words which mean entirely different things to different people, and most of them don't realize this fact.
(Also, I feel like I'm starting to have to repeat myself in trying to explain things to you, which is frustrating the hell out of me, and probably implies a fairly basic disconnect and low level assumptions being made on one or both of our parts)