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Apr. 6th, 2004 05:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxFinally, I have a stronger sense of _why_ in-person is so necessary for me to cement relationships of whatever sort.
It's the difference between being told something, with words, and _knowing_ it via empathy and/or small, but meaningful actions.
People I converse with a whole bunch via text, I know. Well, assuming that what they say isn't conflicting bizarrely with itself or the sense I have of them.
People I meet in-person, but don't interact with (or have some other reason to focus entirely on them, in a socially acceptable manner), I don't remember. This means I don't remember most first meetings of people.
People I meet in-person, but have some small amounts of direct interaction with, I get a sense of. Generally enough of one to know if I want to get to know them better. Even if sometimes too late to get contact info.
People I converse with, via text or in-person, and with whom I have enough in-person time, I _know_. I don't have random stupid insecurities about stuff, or when I do, I have things to point them at to make them shut the hell up. I can handle not being able to interact with them for a while, without too many problems (well, presuming it's just a happenstance of life, and not something more... intentional). I can be patient because the various stupid fears in my life have nothing to latch onto and grow. This is true even without the ability to converse via non-in-person methods, although this lack will annoy me and start to give the fears somewhere fertile after a while.
It's the difference between being told something, with words, and _knowing_ it via empathy and/or small, but meaningful actions.
People I converse with a whole bunch via text, I know. Well, assuming that what they say isn't conflicting bizarrely with itself or the sense I have of them.
People I meet in-person, but don't interact with (or have some other reason to focus entirely on them, in a socially acceptable manner), I don't remember. This means I don't remember most first meetings of people.
People I meet in-person, but have some small amounts of direct interaction with, I get a sense of. Generally enough of one to know if I want to get to know them better. Even if sometimes too late to get contact info.
People I converse with, via text or in-person, and with whom I have enough in-person time, I _know_. I don't have random stupid insecurities about stuff, or when I do, I have things to point them at to make them shut the hell up. I can handle not being able to interact with them for a while, without too many problems (well, presuming it's just a happenstance of life, and not something more... intentional). I can be patient because the various stupid fears in my life have nothing to latch onto and grow. This is true even without the ability to converse via non-in-person methods, although this lack will annoy me and start to give the fears somewhere fertile after a while.
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Date: 2004-04-06 05:33 pm (UTC)So between the people you communicate with text-only vs. those with whom you have in person - are you saying you know them differently, or that you know the last category of people better than the others, or that you react differently to having intuitive vs. intellectual style knowledge of them?
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Date: 2004-04-07 07:37 am (UTC)(I'm not sure that made any more sense...)