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[wispfox]

So, some of you may be aware of the fact that being given flowers is not a happy thing for me. They die. Quickly. Hello, what's with giving people dead things as gifts?! (except if it's food...)

Delightful link along these lines, here. Credit to ladytabitha for finding it. :)

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[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Why is that a no no move? I do it. Hell, I do it _before_ people are likely to form that impulse relating to me.

[vareshe.livejournal.com]

just courtesy and appreciation for the guy who was trying to do something nice. :p it would've been different had i told them my preference ahead of time (or if they had the power to read my mind), but if you have someone trying to show their heart on their sleeve with the presentation of flowers, it's a bitch slap to their face for you to sit there and calmly state how you hate flowers aka the gift SUCKED.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Why?

You can indicate appreciation for the thought, and then explain that you don't like the specific gesture, and why. No?

[vareshe.livejournal.com]

not everyone can take constructive criticism well. maybe you're confused as to how blunt truth could be possibly negative, b/c i'm speaking from a personal experience that i did not bring up. in my case, the guy sunk into a terrible depression over it, which then converted to resentment and anger against me. the guy had his issues (narcissistic personality disorder), i'm just saying it's not always wise to to assume that everyone is "normal."

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

maybe you're confused as to how blunt truth could be possibly negative

No...

I just assume sanity on other people's part unless proven wrong, and tend to avoid those who prove me wrong. And, if someone takes things the wrong way when what I said would not bother most sane people, I refuse to think it's my concern.