I've long said that for me, to love someone is about them. I want them to have good opportunities, I want to help remove obstacles, I want to assist with challenges, and I want them to have nice things. It is entirely about how I want them to be and to feel.
For me, to be in love with someone is actually all about me and how I am and feel. Falling in love overlaps considerably with NRE in that I am preoccupied with them and I crave engagement and entanglement with them. It acts as a multiplier or coefficient on all my feelings (side effect: causes me to feel it more with anyone else I love and am in love with). It amplifies my generosity and my eloquence. I am moved to say and do grand things that are equal to the size of my feelings.
It doesn't feel bigger than me, but I do understand the impulse to let it fill the space available.
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Date: 2014-12-27 01:21 am (UTC)For me, to be in love with someone is actually all about me and how I am and feel. Falling in love overlaps considerably with NRE in that I am preoccupied with them and I crave engagement and entanglement with them. It acts as a multiplier or coefficient on all my feelings (side effect: causes me to feel it more with anyone else I love and am in love with). It amplifies my generosity and my eloquence. I am moved to say and do grand things that are equal to the size of my feelings.
It doesn't feel bigger than me, but I do understand the impulse to let it fill the space available.