wispfox

It is so very frustrating to be able to look at my thought patterns, be able to point at the things which are inaccurate and wrong, be able to explain to myself _why_ they are inaccurate and wrong, and not have it make a damn bit of difference. Partly because the bits that are sane and reasonable keep getting mixed up with the bits that aren't, and it's significant effort to separate them out and keep them separate. And partly because right now I'm way too good at saying 'yes, but', rather than ignoring things.

Normally, knowing, accepting, and understanding the reasons for things is sufficient for things to not bother me (sometimes they will take a bit to chill out, but it's generally temporary). Even if they are things I don't like or would prefer to be another way, I can at least accept and cope with things (there are, I note, things that I cannot accept, and therefore cannot cope with. I tend to try to remove such things from my life). I _like_ that this is normally true for me. 'Why' is normally one of the most important questions I can have answered, no matter what the context.

Not so right now. Right now, I have to watch everything I do, say, or want to do or say, and make sure that there aren't hidden reasons for them. Or that I'm not doing/saying something as a rationalization for what's fucked up in my head right now. Or that I'm not getting back into bad habits as far as what I expect people to do, regardless of there being no reason to expect it, and in fact having reasons to expect otherwise. And regardless of the amount of time I've put into escaping those bad habits. (Hey, at least I can recognize them as bad habits, right?)

It's actually, I suspect, easier to cope with this time of year if I do actually have things to be upset about that I would still be ok with being upset about even if it were not this time of year. Because then I have an outlet which doesn't entail me being pissed off at my fucked up brain patterns. At least not quite so much.

(Yes, yes, I know. Emotions are valid, period. But the problem with that is, if I don't keep an eye on which thought patterns make sense and which ones don't, I'm all too likely to use faulty thought patterns to come to an inaccurate, and often poisonous, conclusion)

In a vaguely related kind of way, I was struck by the thought that perhaps the timing for Valentine's day is because this time of year is just generally more difficult on people's connections with other people (they sure as hell are for me!), and perhaps the day is an attempt to remind people that they might need to work a little harder right now. That possibility does mean that Valentine's day no longer annoys me quite as much as it used to, since now it's not quite so much about getting people to do things that they should already be doing, and more about reminding them that this time of year is especially difficult on relationships. At least in my experience.

Yeah. Thingy. Also, I'm way too prone to babbling and overwhelming people with information right now. *Wry* Either I shut up, or I talk way too much and make it impossible to find a point to what I'm saying. Lovely.