Random babblings for the day
Mar. 11th, 2003 01:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wispfoxNoticed today (and recently) that I'm apparently having weird pronoun issues. I keep finding myself feeling a need to verify that gender-specific pronouns I use are accurate. I begin to think my life would be much easier if I didn't have to think about such things, since for the most part, I tend to not do so automatically.
Technically, I tend to have trouble with *most* things relating to physical presence. Which is likely why I have such a hard time describing people. People are not a visual presence, or a name, in my head. They are their expressed ideas, the emotions I pick up, and the general sense they give off. I'm sure there's more to people in my head than these, but those are what came to mind first.
Attaching a person to a name is not an automatic or default thing for me to do. Especially since I already have trouble with words.
I find this LiveJournal thing really funny, 'cause now I get a single place for my babbling, rather than babbling at various people and/or email lists. Not that I expect to *stop* babbling at people; it just makes it easier if I have a general babble instead of a specifically directed one.
StarHawk has an interesting Notice on her page today. She often does, actually. I've started snagging ones I find especially interesting to put onto my own (semi-up-to-date) home page.
I'm currently having a certain sense of amusement vaguely relating to the topic with which I started my babbling. I find it ironic that, throughout my life, I tend to be randomly physically attracted to far more women than men. But, I generally get along much better with men. It's almost as if my mind can't quite figure out how to deal with the fact that I tend to appreciate 'pretty', and 'pretty' is not generally a term one can use on men (at least not without offending). So, it just plain ignores the whole question, unless I consciously think about it. And, *if* I consciously think about it, I do tend to notice that those men to whom I am otherwise attracted are 'cute' and/or 'pretty'. But, then, 'cute' has a similar problem to 'pretty'. It feels weird to apply it to men...
As far as the getting along better with men issue, I think I'm just too damn picky about the women I get along with. On the plus side, I think I've recently found a woman that I very much and very easily get along with. The amount of shock caused by that realization was amazing. I have a couple others I get along with really well outside of family members, and the ones *inside* my family are probably not people I'd spend time with if I were not related to them. Very different world-views.
This piece of my babble is actually making me laugh, when combined with my initial 'pronouns confuse me' comments. Pronouns may confuse me, but I still make distinctions based on gender. Go figure. This would be why I don't tend to claim to make any sense outside of my own head. Of course, I don't tend to claim all that much about myself, so that's probably not news. ;)
Must be my habit of trying to find patterns in order to make life make a bit more sense that makes me notice things like the above. Ah well. Enough random babbles for the moment.
Attaching a person to a name is not an automatic or default thing for me to do. Especially since I already have trouble with words.
I find this LiveJournal thing really funny, 'cause now I get a single place for my babbling, rather than babbling at various people and/or email lists. Not that I expect to *stop* babbling at people; it just makes it easier if I have a general babble instead of a specifically directed one.
StarHawk has an interesting Notice on her page today. She often does, actually. I've started snagging ones I find especially interesting to put onto my own (semi-up-to-date) home page.
I'm currently having a certain sense of amusement vaguely relating to the topic with which I started my babbling. I find it ironic that, throughout my life, I tend to be randomly physically attracted to far more women than men. But, I generally get along much better with men. It's almost as if my mind can't quite figure out how to deal with the fact that I tend to appreciate 'pretty', and 'pretty' is not generally a term one can use on men (at least not without offending). So, it just plain ignores the whole question, unless I consciously think about it. And, *if* I consciously think about it, I do tend to notice that those men to whom I am otherwise attracted are 'cute' and/or 'pretty'. But, then, 'cute' has a similar problem to 'pretty'. It feels weird to apply it to men...
As far as the getting along better with men issue, I think I'm just too damn picky about the women I get along with. On the plus side, I think I've recently found a woman that I very much and very easily get along with. The amount of shock caused by that realization was amazing. I have a couple others I get along with really well outside of family members, and the ones *inside* my family are probably not people I'd spend time with if I were not related to them. Very different world-views.
This piece of my babble is actually making me laugh, when combined with my initial 'pronouns confuse me' comments. Pronouns may confuse me, but I still make distinctions based on gender. Go figure. This would be why I don't tend to claim to make any sense outside of my own head. Of course, I don't tend to claim all that much about myself, so that's probably not news. ;)
Must be my habit of trying to find patterns in order to make life make a bit more sense that makes me notice things like the above.
