[brains.social]

Alright, so.

The initial comment charmed me.

However, anonymity weirded me out a bit. Partly because this person clearly has met me and interacted with me enough to _see_ my focus when I'm curious about something, so why be anonymous? And I have enough people recognizing me and knowing my name when I have no idea who they are on a regular basis (bad with names, and at least somewhat prosopagnosic - fun combination). There's a reason I never to do anonymous 'who likes me' comment memes (holy drama-magnet and discomfort probability, batman!). But, only mild weirding out, and not something all that unusual. (I tend toward mild levels of confusion on a regular basis. This may be why I try to avoid additional sources of it whenever possible; at least if they are unwilling to explain their confusingness. Explanation does much to mitigate people being confusing to me)

Although the... heavy-handedness of the interest expression also weirds me out a bit (does someone actually think that I'd be interested in a single person in quite that obsessive a manner? Admittedly, this view of things did not occur to me until I got irritated, so take with a grain of salt. Also makes me now wonder if this is a monogamous person. Who is really oblivious about my serious lack of a monogamous nature).

Ok, so I ask who it is. Reasonable, I think. Especially what with expressing charmedness, as well.

The answer is basically useless (_how_ many people do I know who are both interesting and strange?!). I have a possibility for who it might be, and send mail to find out. I am mistaken, but an entertaining email conversation ensues.

Ok, second try to get an answer for who this is. Beginning to get annoyed with the lack of answer to direct question.

Still no answer. Now I'm irritated. Not getting answers to reasonable questions being asked point-blank? Does not make a happy wispfox. If I wanted to play that kind of game, I would not have asked outright. Yes, I asked in a somewhat silly manner (to go along with the original silly), but I _asked_.

I rant. To jasra, and some to australian_joe. But I decide replying while irritated is unwise. Considered not answering at all, but that seemed... rude, considering that there had been ongoing dialog. Even if I don't know who I was talking to.

Ok, I reply, failing to completely remove irritation, but trying to be reasonably clear about _why_ there is irritation. And trying very hard to explain how I work in regards to this.

The reply? Startles me, and again feels over-the-top. Abject shame? Seriously, was I really that harsh? I've decided against replying, even though that reply does get a certain amount of 'well, that's not really what I meant', simply because this level of confusion is not worth it.

I am confused. And I hope that whomever that was reads me, so as to at least have some idea of what was going on in my head (since, not knowing who it is, I neither know how to explain directly, nor do I know if I accidentally offended someone that I am fond of). OTOH, though... someone who causes that level of confusion in me is probably not someone I am terribly close to, or have ever been. Unless they aren't usually that... cryptic? Puzzling? Hmm. Can't find the word I want. Obfuscated? Maybe.

Having had an evil cold probably didn't help, either, huh? (which I am mostly over, finally, but Friday and Saturday _SUCKED_)

[brains.social]

Alright, so.

The initial comment charmed me.

However, anonymity weirded me out a bit. Partly because this person clearly has met me and interacted with me enough to _see_ my focus when I'm curious about something, so why be anonymous? And I have enough people recognizing me and knowing my name when I have no idea who they are on a regular basis (bad with names, and at least somewhat prosopagnosic - fun combination). There's a reason I never to do anonymous 'who likes me' comment memes (holy drama-magnet and discomfort probability, batman!). But, only mild weirding out, and not something all that unusual. (I tend toward mild levels of confusion on a regular basis. This may be why I try to avoid additional sources of it whenever possible; at least if they are unwilling to explain their confusingness. Explanation does much to mitigate people being confusing to me)

Although the... heavy-handedness of the interest expression also weirds me out a bit (does someone actually think that I'd be interested in a single person in quite that obsessive a manner? Admittedly, this view of things did not occur to me until I got irritated, so take with a grain of salt. Also makes me now wonder if this is a monogamous person. Who is really oblivious about my serious lack of a monogamous nature).

Ok, so I ask who it is. Reasonable, I think. Especially what with expressing charmedness, as well.

The answer is basically useless (_how_ many people do I know who are both interesting and strange?!). I have a possibility for who it might be, and send mail to find out. I am mistaken, but an entertaining email conversation ensues.

Ok, second try to get an answer for who this is. Beginning to get annoyed with the lack of answer to direct question.

Still no answer. Now I'm irritated. Not getting answers to reasonable questions being asked point-blank? Does not make a happy wispfox. If I wanted to play that kind of game, I would not have asked outright. Yes, I asked in a somewhat silly manner (to go along with the original silly), but I _asked_.

I rant. To jasra, and some to australian_joe. But I decide replying while irritated is unwise. Considered not answering at all, but that seemed... rude, considering that there had been ongoing dialog. Even if I don't know who I was talking to.

Ok, I reply, failing to completely remove irritation, but trying to be reasonably clear about _why_ there is irritation. And trying very hard to explain how I work in regards to this.

The reply? Startles me, and again feels over-the-top. Abject shame? Seriously, was I really that harsh? I've decided against replying, even though that reply does get a certain amount of 'well, that's not really what I meant', simply because this level of confusion is not worth it.

I am confused. And I hope that whomever that was reads me, so as to at least have some idea of what was going on in my head (since, not knowing who it is, I neither know how to explain directly, nor do I know if I accidentally offended someone that I am fond of). OTOH, though... someone who causes that level of confusion in me is probably not someone I am terribly close to, or have ever been. Unless they aren't usually that... cryptic? Puzzling? Hmm. Can't find the word I want. Obfuscated? Maybe.

Having had an evil cold probably didn't help, either, huh? (which I am mostly over, finally, but Friday and Saturday _SUCKED_)