[definitions]

[wispfox]

I think I figured out why (other than just because I was being contrary) I don't have (or want) a harem by my definition, but the definitions used last night were ok (but good at making me blush furiously).

Harem, in my head, implies things like there being a lack of equality. And that I'm supporting them. And they are always around (that would be crowded). And that there is more defined relationship structure than there actually is in australian_joe's definition of such.

randysmith's definition is just funny. :) And, of course, the fact that I'm nearly certain that the definitions used were only used so that the word could be made to apply to me certainly caused me to have _reason_ to be contrary about it. In addition, the discussion was making me blush furiously, as I tend to have a difficult time with being made highly visible, even if in a good way and in a group of people I trust. (which probably contributed to the discussion continuing, since it's not as if I blush often)

australian_joe's definition was the group containing the people that I have kissed, where there is continued mutual interest in doing more than that (regardless of if it's likely that there will be more than that).

randysmith's definition, which I think no longer even vaguely approximates the original meaning, but was amusing in the 'dear god, I can't even enumerate that list" kind of way, was people I am comfortable cuddling in public. I think that contains pretty much everyone whose company I seek out in a social setting, and since I'm known to periodically have trouble keeping track of who I've not seen a while in that group, especially if they are local, I sure as hell can't enumerate it!

I think the funniest thing about this is that I _was_ actively trying to get everyone who fits australian_joe's definition, who would be around and known to be interested, at last night's Psinging. Because, dude, singing and many people I care about. What's _not_ to like?

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[rosefox]

If I'd known, I would have tried for an earlier bus!

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

And lo, you will soon know about Psingings! :)

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

So is there a waiting list, or an application process, or what? :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

*intense amusement* The idea of me having a waiting list is amusing the _HELL_ out of me. :)

Oddly, I think there sorta kinda _is_ an application process. People in Joe's definition are all also in Randy's definition, although the reverse is not true. So, inasmuch as people have any control over me being comfortable with them and/or noticing them, yes! Hee. :)

(even more entertainingly, I read 'waiting list' as 'mailing list', initially)

[jim-p.livejournal.com]

Um... "AOL"? ;)

[ducking]

[okoshun.livejournal.com]

I like the idea of having a harem - australian_joe's definition is closer to my definition but is still a bit too broad.

Because, dude, singing and many people I care about. What's _not_ to like?

It sound like the makings of an incredible evening. :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

australian_joe's definition is also too broad for my taste, but modified to include people I am actively dating (rather than investigating, which is the category that his definition also included) would probably work for me.

Because, dude, singing and many people I care about. What's _not_ to like?

It sound like the makings of an incredible evening. :)

*grin* I agree! ;)

[okoshun.livejournal.com]

australian_joe's definition is also too broad for my taste, but modified to include people I am actively dating (rather than investigating, which is the category that his definition also included) would probably work for me.

I could see that working combined with the lack of negative connotations the term itself exudes in its traditional definition. :)

It sound like the makings of an incredible evening. :)

*grin* I agree! ;)

:)

[ian-gunn.livejournal.com]

The whole conversation and making you blush was amusing. I was sorely tempted at one point during the exchange to sit on the floor and lean back against your legs to add on to the silliness. Some internal filter of mine just would not let me do it, even though I know it would have been funny at that moment.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Meep! I would have felt _such_ a need to hide. It was strange enough having australian_joe noting that ratatosk was on the wrong side of the room! (which, considering that he's one of the ones I'd specifically asked if would be there, makes _sense_, but still!)

[ian-gunn.livejournal.com]

*grin* Which is, of course, why it would have been funny. And also part of why my "anti-embarrassment" filter would not let me do it.

[randysmith]

randysmith's definition, which I think no longer even vaguely approximates the original meaning, but was amusing in the 'dear god, I can't even enumerate that list" kind of way, was people I am comfortable cuddling in public.

It's interesting. Thinking about it some more, the definition I was actually working from is narrower than this. It's something like "People with whom you often cuddle with in public as a group, when that group is joined by you". Don't get me wrong; I'm happy to fall back to the definition I gave you for amusement/wispfox's brain-playing-with purposes, but it was the fact that you came in and sat down with an interwoven cuddly group that had you at its center that made me think "Harem!" :-}. Which meant I would have thought of it as less of your harem had rosefox actually been there. Weird (though amusing).

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

"People with whom you often cuddle with in public as a group, when that group is joined by you"

... huh!

I think the only time you tend to see this is at Psinging, though, so your definition might even be "People with whom wispfox often cuddles with in a group at Psinging".

If you tended to sit still long enough at Psinging, you _would_ be in that group. I've most definitely cuddled with you at Psinging before! Or are you also requiring interconnections within that group which aren't solely with me? Because _that_ requirement shrinks the group quite a bit.

I also wonder how much of it has to do with the people that I specifically ask to be there (those who are in australian_joe's definition are definitely there. Other people might also be there). Huh.

Ok, ok, by some definition thereof, I have a harem.

Happy? ;)