[joy.cuddling]

[wispfox]

Brief moments of snuggling before leaving for work are wonderful. Having been _asked_ for them is... amazing, really.

It's odd, but in a really, _really_ good way, to be asked to do things that I want to do anyway, especially if I'd not actually consciously realized that I want to (I have a fairly strong "don't wake sleeping people' thing in my head, although I'm getting better at accepting that most other people don't have as much trouble with getting to and staying asleep as I do).

I think the last time I sought anyone out for brief cuddling before leaving for work/school was when I was still in junior high or possibly high school. And that was because school _terrified_ me.

Having someone with whom I enjoy, crave, or otherwise actively enjoy physical contact ask me for specific kinds of cuddly physical contact is amazing. I don't tend to get that much. Hell, I don't tend to get asked for touch from most of the people that I am close to, let alone any specific kind that was actively missed by them.

Asking is an excellent way to reinforce desired behaviors, since I don't necessarily trust/pick up on non-verbal stuff. :)

I'm amused to notice myself randomly grinning because there is an australian_joe sleeping in my bed. Both today, at work, and over the long weekend, sometimes, when I'd look over when he was napping.

Yeah. Joy. :)

Comments

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

Ah! You will love me, then, because I will definitely ask for cuddling. Cuddling is the natural state of the 'song.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Indeed. Although, have you ever _asked_ me for cuddling? Or do we just end up doing it?

[shadesong.livejournal.com]

I think we just end up doing it. We are like magnets that way.

Though if I was around more and I needed cuddling and we were not already cuddling, I would certainly request it when needed. *nod*

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Ok! :)

Magnet selves!

[ian-gunn.livejournal.com]

I note that at her birthday party I observed you asking 'song to come and cuddle with you. Sometimes you do ask. :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

No, I mean, does _she_ ask _me_!

I know I ask her. ;)

[ian-gunn.livejournal.com]

Right, I knew that. I had in the back of my head that sometimes you don't ask for touch when you want it. That does not apply here, obviously. :)