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Today, I was informed by co-workers of mine that I am imaginary. And that I'm a zombie. I'm an imaginary zombie? Does that mean people would, or would not, notice me eating their brain?

Also. The non-'partner' word I'm looking for. I'm looking for a word to describe the people in my life who I care very much about, with whom there either already is or probably will be some form of sexual relationship, but with whom there is not a connection of the type which would put them into the partner category. This may, even, include people who are in the process of becoming a partner (I don't know, as this is theoretical for me right now), since it's odd to call someone a partner, no matter how strong the connection, when one is still getting to know each other.

-I had been using friends+. But it feels... lacking.

-Lovers covers both categories, so isn't descriptive enough.

-Close friend works to describe the non-sexual part, I think, but not the type of relationship as mentioned above.

-Fuck buddy irritates the hell out of me, because it sounds so... demeaning. I've found that I simply don't have interest in sex without some level of connection, at least as strong as good friends (or the possibility thereof). Fuck buddies, at least in my head, doesn't have any sort of connection implied.

-Mates feels, again, to be too general.

-I kinda like dear ones, but it doesn't really feel right for me.

-Sweeties might work... but something feels wrong there, too. I haven't yet been able to pick out why, so this might actually be something I could use, once I figure out the why of the wrongness.

Hmm. It feels a little like it implies something about the relationship, so might be forcing some sort of expectation. The category which I'm trying to describe doesn't *have* any expectation, aside from that friendship continues, and any change in the relationship state is discussed between the two of us. So... possible expectation implication bothers me. There may not *be* a word for this, thinking about it...

Hmm. I seem to be somewhere between 'sweeties' and 'lovers' for a word choice. Close friend works in the case of there not being sexual expression of the relationship. I wonder if I can do something to combine the feelings behind these to find the one I *like*? (Heh. Close friend *and* lover, perhaps? Descriptive, and doesn't trigger feelings of possibly unexpressed expectations in my head...)

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when you figure it out do be sure to let me know, as i have been waffle-y for months on this.

hm, maybe i should just call them waffles, as that's what they make me do.

Waffles! You know, that'd be a really entertaining word choice. :)

wouldn't it though?

yes! waffles! i'm *so* using that at some point...

think we can start some kind of word-craze with this?

*chuckles* Or at least continue the grand tradition of confusing the hell out of everyone. ;)

*shakes head* well, at least one of my jokes caught on today.

Only one? People around you must be slow... ;)

aw, thanks :)

*grins* Welcome!

And I think I am, indeed, going to start using 'waffles'.

aelisdeliria and I agreed on the sheer usefulness of that word, last night. :)

waffles works for me...

i like sweetie for non-partner people, but i don't think that i do the same sort of non-partner people that you do, in that i do in fact have expectations of the relationship.

It's not that I don't have expectations - it's that they are defined as part of the relationships in question, so that the term used cannot be implying things about it. The expectations will vary wildly among those which fall into this category.

"Intimate friends"?

As for the imaginary zombie thing, if you are, you're a very cute imaginary zombie.

"Intimate friends"?

Perhaps. I'll think on that one.

Also, :P!

Perhaps they’re constantly imagining you eating their brains.

Hi There!

Snugglebunny?

Um. Were it not for the fact that I snuggle with anyone I'm sufficiently comfortable with, regardless of the likelyhood of sexual behavior existing at some point, perhaps.

Also, much too cutesy for me.

Hi There!

It just sounded to me like the cognitive opposite of "fuckbuddy".

Ah. :)

http://www.adjectivenoun.org.uk/jake/twentyseven.htm

Heh. Quite. :)

I like "intimate friend" or "dear friend." (The former seems more accurate, the latter more comfortable in conversation.) Or, for a few individuals, "too complicated to explain," abbreviated "TOCOTOX," parallel to "SO."

Then again, I don't have a problem with the idea that someone can be a "partner," without specifying primary/secondary/tertiary status. Sometimes I'm not even sure if we're talking about sex partners, playpartners, business partners, or bridge partners. I think "partner" can be a good all-purpose word. Yet it still felt deeply significant when my TOCOTOX (of many years) introduced me to a third party as his partner.

*chuckle* The problem with TOCOTOXEN is that there is no one for whom that does *not* describe in my life. So it rather loses its usefulness. :)

And, to me, partner definately indicates something deep and significant in my head. So not all-purpose for me.

Dear One, to me, has an intimacy that I like in person for such situations, but lacks something when used in the 3rd person. I have had people in my life that I would say "......my Dear One...." to, but cannot imagine saying to someone else, "My dear one and I.... " On the other hand Sweetie, to me, does not imply anything particular about a relationship, other than that there is one, and it special to me, so I am likely to refer to someone as my sweetie when I need to.

lacks something when used in the 3rd person.

Yeah. That might be my problem with it! :)