[brains, social.relationships]

[wispfox]

(posting because I want it in writing for later reference, since I only just managed to put words around it)

I have trouble with being grouped socially if it's not obvious that there is awareness of the uniqueness of the individuals being grouped. Interpersonal examples of this include not seeming to care which person within said group one talks to or spends time with.

I kinda wonder if this relates at all to why I really don't like being a part of groups which are formed solely on a single attribute. (I tend to hang out on fringes of social groups in general, so I doubt it's the entire reason)

[edit: because you people want an example.

Something like an unexpected phone call, with the caller stating a lack of caring as to which of the residents they talk to. No matter who the caller is, or why they called, that'll make me immediately not want to talk to them.]

Comments

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Possible thing: Quite. That does, in fact, seriously annoy me.

Or, 'we all have this thing in common, therefore we must all like everyone else who has that, or must represent everyone who has that'. :)

I like the 'pseudopod of a group' phrasing. Yay!

[the-xtina.livejournal.com]

Oh GOD yeah, that too.  That's when I start getting creeped by clubs/groups/things formed around a single trait, honestly.  I'm treated as One Of $Group, both by outsiders and by group members.  It's why I like knowing polyfolk, Objectivists, Republicans, atheists, spiritual folk, and so forth, but not being An Anything.  I have enough assumptions, mine and others', to deal with without introducing a whole new set just because I (frinst) like to knit a whole lot.