I tend to, early on. But it is _very_ difficult for me to get beyond certain points in my thoughts about new things without having someone to talk to about whatever it is. Better yet if they are actively interested, but even people who don't mind me babbling are good (my poor roommate, for example). And this is part of why I _so_ appreciate LJ. I can talk, babble, whatever - and _not_ bug people who don't have an active interest in what I want to say.
That's true; it's easy for folks to just skip the entry if they don't care to read that on that particular day. Even so, its nice, as the song goes, "if you're lucky to be one of the few to find somebody who can tolerate you." I love having "banter buddies" - folks who will engage me in my deconstruction of self; alas, they are few and far between.
I have gotten very good at being able to tell how much help is worthwhile, and at what points I'm only draining myself needlessly. I don't know how I do this. Perhaps by having a better sense of myself?
A better sense of self-preservation perhaps - I've been gradually building up to that. I, however, only like to learn through significant suffering and torment - otherwise, its just not all that satisfying, ya know? >;-) Its a behavior that I'm learning to recognize earlier and earlier, and yes, I am getting around to where you are at. At least I know where the goal line is now, and I'm facing in that direction.
I know. I have, already, many times. I did, however, formerly make the mistake of thinking that, because I was much closer, I did not need to continue to have a close eye to my internal state. Which meant that I kept losing track of things until they exploded in my face. I somehow got the impression I was 'done' for a while, rather than on a journey. I don't know where I got that from, and I think I've finally _stopped_ that!
It's certainly easy to get distracted by the noise of day to day life and forget about who we are, what we like and don't like, etc. However, I think that sometimes it is only by falling off track, and being lost for a while, that we learn to recognize what we really want in life, and where we want to be.
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That's true; it's easy for folks to just skip the entry if they don't care to read that on that particular day. Even so, its nice, as the song goes, "if you're lucky to be one of the few to find somebody who can tolerate you." I love having "banter buddies" - folks who will engage me in my deconstruction of self; alas, they are few and far between.
I have gotten very good at being able to tell how much help is worthwhile, and at what points I'm only draining myself needlessly. I don't know how I do this. Perhaps by having a better sense of myself?
A better sense of self-preservation perhaps - I've been gradually building up to that. I, however, only like to learn through significant suffering and torment - otherwise, its just not all that satisfying, ya know?
>;-)
Its a behavior that I'm learning to recognize earlier and earlier, and yes, I am getting around to where you are at. At least I know where the goal line is now, and I'm facing in that direction.
I know. I have, already, many times. I did, however, formerly make the mistake of thinking that, because I was much closer, I did not need to continue to have a close eye to my internal state. Which meant that I kept losing track of things until they exploded in my face. I somehow got the impression I was 'done' for a while, rather than on a journey. I don't know where I got that from, and I think I've finally _stopped_ that!
It's certainly easy to get distracted by the noise of day to day life and forget about who we are, what we like and don't like, etc. However, I think that sometimes it is only by falling off track, and being lost for a while, that we learn to recognize what we really want in life, and where we want to be.