[brains.processing]

[wispfox]

I dislike the fact that, because of my delays for processing on things, it's _much_ too frequent that I want to talk to people about stuff after I am no longer with them, generally after a day or two has passed. (This can be interesting in the case of me living with someone, because I tend to have to pay more attention to determine if there are things I need to be processing on but haven't due to not having a natural break in interaction - I don't count work as a useful break, since I can't really do intensive processing at work. On the other hand, with someone I live with, it's generally easier to find time for conversing)

This is really annoying to me, because it means I use either email - which isn't real-time but which I can write any time I want - or phone - which is real-time, is currently a low-level annoyance (more so with no warning, unless I happen to not be doing _anything_ right then), and is something for which I have to manage to remember what I wanted to say during the time I'm actually on the phone.

Hmm. I think this may at least partly be annoying me because I'm grumpy, and not the other way around. I think this because, for many things, email is still my preferred medium (because writing & reading are lower effort for me than speaking or listening, and most of the time I don't feel any particular urgency for my conversations). I think I'm actually especially annoyed by this aspect of myself because I'm overreacting to not having anyone _home_ with me to talk to, so want other ways to talk to people I'm close to.

Huh. Fascinating.

Comments

[randysmith]

How do you feel about IM? (I personally dislike it, but it seems like it might fit in the intermediate place you're targetting).

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

It's ok, but it requires people to be on it in order to use it. Which is infrequent for most of the people I'm likely to want to talk to.

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

*pokepokepoke*

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

*smile* Yes, you tend to be on, but you're not one of the ones I'm currently wanting to be talking to, and I'm otherwise fairly anti-social. But thank you!

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

Okay... *half-mopes* Well, ping me when I am. :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

*wry* Well, the thing is, IM is my _last_ choice for conversation.

OK, right now, with phone being mildly annoying even when expected, it's probably slightly better than phone for most purposes, and about par with phone for the very few people with whom phone is effectively non-stressful for me.

But either way, if I'm borderline anti-social, IM is not a good thing except for people I'm specifically wanting to talk to, and I will almost certainly have used email first. (email is usually my default if in-person conversation isn't possible, and even sometimes if it _is_ possible)

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

*nods* I'm working on random email resistance, as have said.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

I am thoroughly unable to parse 'random email resistance', even though I think I remember what conversation you're referencing. *confused*

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

that I seldom feel like sending email. part of it is the webemail slowness, but the rest is feeling like it should be "important". And I don't know exactly why "important" gets triggered.

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

Oh, I see. You're working on _fixing_ it, not on creating it.

OK, less confused now. :)

[bridgetester.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I don't need more resistance of this type. :)

[dancingwolfgrrl.livejournal.com]

talktalktalktalktalk :)
Actually, I just remembered that we're supposed to talk tomorrow. We should maybe plan for this :)

[wispfox.livejournal.com]

*chuckle* Yes, because you will be visiting me! Yay, possibility for idle in-person nattering!

Planning, yes. I send email now. :)