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[link,autistic spectrum and some thoughts]
More on that neurotypical woman's difficulty with her austism spectrum husband, and people's quite clear attempts at explaining is here, in ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
griffen's journal.
*amused* You know, lots of people are amazed at how clear I can be, especially in writing. But... that's because I _have_ to - partly so I understand, myself, and partly because I don't have any other even vaguely reliable method of communication. And, of course, those who mostly know me in writing - even including here where I am sometimes sloppy - don't see how difficult it can be for me to be even slightly clear on things I've not put a lot of thought into. Or how much more effort speaking is than writing (on the computer; by hand is nearly worthless to me except for very brief things).
I was reminded of this by my degree of being impressed by the person being quoted in the above link. I doubt I could be _nearly_ as coherent about it, because I've not had enough direct experience and/or have not put enough thought into it. Part of why I tend to avoid arguments/debates of any sort is that I have _so_ much trouble organizing my thoughts, especially when I'm needing to reply to things that are said to me, and have to say things back. I lose whatever it is I want to say, really quickly. Even if it's something with which I have large amounts of personal experience, this doesn't mean I can explain it, even if I'm _not_ in a stressful situation like debates are (for me). (and yes, written debates are easier, but still majorly difficult for me)
griffen's journal.*amused* You know, lots of people are amazed at how clear I can be, especially in writing. But... that's because I _have_ to - partly so I understand, myself, and partly because I don't have any other even vaguely reliable method of communication. And, of course, those who mostly know me in writing - even including here where I am sometimes sloppy - don't see how difficult it can be for me to be even slightly clear on things I've not put a lot of thought into. Or how much more effort speaking is than writing (on the computer; by hand is nearly worthless to me except for very brief things).
I was reminded of this by my degree of being impressed by the person being quoted in the above link. I doubt I could be _nearly_ as coherent about it, because I've not had enough direct experience and/or have not put enough thought into it. Part of why I tend to avoid arguments/debates of any sort is that I have _so_ much trouble organizing my thoughts, especially when I'm needing to reply to things that are said to me, and have to say things back. I lose whatever it is I want to say, really quickly. Even if it's something with which I have large amounts of personal experience, this doesn't mean I can explain it, even if I'm _not_ in a stressful situation like debates are (for me). (and yes, written debates are easier, but still majorly difficult for me)
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"augh, yes. sometimes i wonder if i should just carry a calculator in my pocket everywhere.
particularly when going out to eat - in my head, throughout the entire meal, i'll be going "okay, i ordered this and this, and together they're (figuring it out and then repeating number endlessly so that i won't forget it). the tax is this percentage...um...does anyone have a pen? no? okay..." *pause* "tip. tip. right. so, okay, i can take ten percent of this - easy! - and two times that will be the tip. ...um. two times this is...um.."
gods help me if the service was bad enough to deliberately not leave a 20% tip. and if i feel rushed and can't think quickly enough, i'll often fall severely short of the 'minimum' 15%, or go way beyond 20%.
sigh."