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Sometimes, I have the weirdest dreams...
So, apparently, my dreams feel the need to remind me of exactly how much I don't want children.
For some really strange reason, not only did I have a dream in which I was pregnant (I have no idea how I knew, since in the dream I had not yet missed a period, and had not yet taken any tests for it), but apparently I was being pregnant for someone else. Surrogate mother or something? I don't know *what* I was on to do that... And for some reason, losing my job made whomever requested the child no longer want it. Grrrrrr...
On top of that, for some strange reason, I was taking care of someone's child until they came back from somewhere. On a semi-permanent basis. At which point, I was reminded of how glad I am that I am no one's children's godmother.
I wonder if I'm old enough yet that doctors would be willing to believe me when I say I don't want kids and want to be sterilized? Not that I've ever brought it up with any before, as I figured that they would not believe me...
Maybe I can sell people my eggs while I'm at it. ;)
Blah. Stupid dream... one of those not quite scary, but most certainly disconcerting things!
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Well, I had it done at ... umm ... 29? ... strangely enough, I don't remember the exact age, but that's pretty close ... and didn't have any troubles. It helped that I was married, had been for some time, and that most other forms of birth control caused health problems for my wife. So, it was clear that I had had opportunities, passed on them, and had other "objective" reasons, to boot.
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single.
Blah.
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All I can suggest is, give it a shot. Bring it up with your doctor, and see what she has to say about it.
Let me drag my wife into the discussion, too; she hangs out with the childfree-by-choice crowd, and I know this is a topic that has come up many, many times. I'm sure she's got some insight.
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(No doubt completely unrelated to the high regard in which I hold the present US government.)
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Anyway ... you didn't say how old you are, but I've known of women who got docs to sterilize them as young as early 20s.
As the song goes, "you gotta shop around." If your doctor says no, try another doctor. Tell them calmly and rationally that you don't want children, now or ever. That you've never wanted them, and you are totally confident that you never will.
Don't get angry or act irrational. In addition to paternalism ("I know what you want better than you do"), the doctor's main reason for saying "no" will be fear that you may change your mind and sue him/her. So try to let them know, through your calm and rational demeanor, that that will never happen.
For support on this and other related topics, you might want to check out the Childfree list:
http://www.childfree.net
I know we have women on the list who've been snipped at an "early" age, and they may be able to give you more insight than I can ... I struggled with the pill until my husband got snipped in his late 20s. Or was it early 30s? I don't remember for sure.
Miranda
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winky face. I don't think I knew *why* I thought it was
likely to be a bad idea, but I apparently knew it
was.
For all I know, my current (female, DO) doctor
might be willing to do it; I hadn't brought it up
because I thought I was too young for anyone to believe me.
I'm 25, BTW. Thanks for the wesbite link, and the suggestions!
Re: Getting Snipped
And it makes me feel better to know that she doesn't remember when it happened, either...