For me, the way it works is that I can have many paths of attraction to someone, but once I get past a certain threshold, suddenly all of of them are activated.
ie. once I find someone's brain sufficiently shiny, I want their body. However not the other way around - I've definitely jumped in bed with people on short acquaintance but I don't think I've fallen in love with them.
[thinks]
I *have* been strictly LD text with someone, meet them for the first time in person and then soon be fucking them madly (fastest time, 1h15m). Actually every time I've done that it's worked out well. I've been partner-level in love with a couple of them.
Lately I'm moving a lot more slowly. I think it's making for less stress and drama, and actually isn't costing me all that much in terms of impatience. Maybe this is that maturity thing I've been hearing about all my life.
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For me, the way it works is that I can have many paths of attraction to someone, but once I get past a certain threshold, suddenly all of of them are activated.
ie. once I find someone's brain sufficiently shiny, I want their body. However not the other way around - I've definitely jumped in bed with people on short acquaintance but I don't think I've fallen in love with them.
[thinks]
I *have* been strictly LD text with someone, meet them for the first time in person and then soon be fucking them madly (fastest time, 1h15m). Actually every time I've done that it's worked out well. I've been partner-level in love with a couple of them.
Lately I'm moving a lot more slowly. I think it's making for less stress and drama, and actually isn't costing me all that much in terms of impatience. Maybe this is that maturity thing I've been hearing about all my life.