"-I cannot handle my close relationships (friends, or otherwise) with other people being hidden. If a relationship I have with someone is being hidden by them from those people who ought to know, there is a problem. I'm _terrible_ at hiding things (because I don't _like_ to!), that lack of honesty/openness is painful for me, and that kind of relationship is entirely without certainty. "

The last phrase of that resonates with me - i wonder if i feel less secure in relationships that are being hidden in some way. interesting.