how do habits work for you all?

[wispfox]

One of the books I read for one of my class talked about habits as if people do them without thinking about it. I don't think I do that - even brushing my teeth and flossing are things I have to use mental energy to start. And if I want to do them well, bring mindful about it is necessary.

I think the closest I get is getting dressed in the morning - but that's largely because I have clothing set up to be without many decisions required. So I grab the clothing and put them on, but even then I still have to think about it to not have them inside out and buttoned up right if they have multiple buttons.

Do your habits require any energy to initiate? Do you do them well or right even without paying attention? I'm trying to understand why the book would talk about adding additional habits to existing ones to make them habits as well.

I do wonder if this relates to my difficulty doing anything (except class or work, which require that) more regularly than every two weeks, or exercise that isn't because I have another reason besides exercise to do them.

And doing things that require scheduling even as often as every two weeks. Of course, I know scheduling and estimating time is really hard for me, so that last bit may be that.

Comments

[wispfox]

Oh _wow_, I can see that as being a problem. Is it particularly easy for you to create an accidental habit like that? Like is it a certain number of repetitions?

[lb_lee]

I dunno that "easy" is the right word, but it is fully possible for us to build a really bad habit by accident without noticing. It's why we've had to not be on social media; those sites are ALL ABOUT building that obsessive checking habit, and we don't have it in us to fight the designers all the time. It also required a fair amount of effort to build our rest/stretch breaks into our way of working.

I dunno that it's a certain number of reps so much as reps and social pressure/obligation to continue the habit. (See also: the professional handicap of not being on social media, of not having a smartphone, etc.) It's harder to resist a bad habit when a lot of people around you are pressuring you to build it.

[wispfox]

Oh, I see. Yes, things that are set up to cause habits would definitely be a problem! And the fact that they are unpleasant to do long-term would go poorly with habit formation.

I guess I'm glad that habits work weirdly on me. I was sad to leave Facebook for the loss of access to my extended family's lives, but otherwise it was not a problem.

[lb_lee]

Yeah, for us, leaving social media requires a whole detox period where we just have to wait out the mounting discomfort of not fulfilling the habit until it finally stops, and then make sure NOT TO REPEAT THE BEHAVIOR (because old habits are easier to resurrect than new ones)