I'm aware you posted this openly, and that there has been fallout from that.

I likewise say this openly: I don't understand someone who is so critically reliant on your continued charity and compassion being anything but 100% perfectly diplomatic, helpful, considerate and obliging. But then, if as you say he's fatalistic, then it's convenient to think nothing he does will make any difference, because then he doesn't have to do anything since "of course" it won't work.